I apologize for having to drop my academic credentials in the title of this post, but let's be honest, that is probably a huge part of why you clicked on it. We all have to take our wins where we can get them, and if you have an intellectual kink then shoutout to you.

Hopefully if you clicked on this post, you're looking for a dom. If you're only interested in just the kink aspect of these things, go ahead and skip to the *. If not, here is my pep talk and intro: Everyone comes to this point for different reasons and with different circumstances. All are very valid, and while I can't promise you the path to finding that match is easy I can attest that it is worth it! There is nothing quite like a kinky dynamic and the way it can open up your world. I've been participating to various levels in the BDSM world for about 12 years now, and I've never regretted it for a second.

Here is a little about me: As stated, I have a PhD in psychology. My job is multifaceted, and I have several obligations that it's composed of. I run a research lab that looks into new treatments for mental disorders, as well as teaching undergraduate psychology classes at the university where I attended graduate school (I'm very fortunate in this regard, a fact I try not to forget). If you like titles, I'm an associate professor. I also run a very minimal clinical practice that is based on my research, but that is truly secondary. Enough about work, in the time that is actually my own I enjoy writing and have published a few small works, reading when I have the energy to really dive in, and arts of all kinds. I love art house cinema, a good art gallery, and read all the plaques at museums. I'm also a typical guy with typical guy interests. I love sports, particularly college football, putting together ikea furniture, and not asking for directions. You know, guy things. I'm 5ft 10, brown hair, grow facial hair easily, and have a muscular build. I used to be a powerlifter, but hurt my knee so had to give up that part of my life. I love to overanalyze culture and media, so prepare some hot takes.

*Alright here's what you came for. In 12 years I've had a mix of kinky experiences, the first of which was with a girlfriend I had in college. Crazy how we can end up here from 1 girl liking to be spanked. At times I've been an active participant in my local scene, but as I went further in my education and had more at stake professionally, I've transitioned online. My longest dynamic was 3 years, and I'm comfortable in either the short or long term set up depending on what you prefer. My kinks include voyeurism, exhibitionism, orgasm control, light humiliation (more in the light of playfully making you embarrassed, less degrading), pain play, TPE, routines, and some elements of public play (non-risky). My biggest limits are ageplay, blood, marking, doxxing (see below), animals/children/illegal/anything too weird. If you don't see it here, feel free to ask about it.

What am I looking for? A safe and freeing dynamic that gives us both an emotional and sexual outlet to express ourselves. Safety is huge for me, as a promise I will never save/share any information/pics/videos outside of our interactions. I feel like that fear of being exposed or doxxed holds a lot of subs back, and then they are unable to be themselves. I don't want that, and I need the same level of safety to ensure my professional reputation!

I have no ideal sub, but I find myself attracted to subs younger than myself. Just be legal (18 ). I have had dynamics with college students, those are very fun and forbidden. For your reference, my type seems to be Type A pre-med/law/engineering/something ambitious with lots of internal pressure needing release. You're life is stressful enough, time to had the keys over to someone else ;) I love girls of all racial and ethnic groups. Attraction is necessary, but remember that confidence in a sub is the sexiest quality they can have.

Here are some FAQs to wrap up:

Q: I am basically the girl you described in the paragraph above, and as such am busy. Is that too big of a barrier? A: Not at all, we all have time constraints, myself included. Don't think that if you're the right sub for me that a little time management isn't possible.

Q: I'm not the girl that you described at all, but I find the whole professor thing/your attitude hot. Should I even try? A: Of course! I've found fulfilling dynamics in surprising places before. Put your best foot forward and lets see how we gel!

Q: I've been lurking for a while and have no experience... how patient are you? A: I LOVE beginners. Being that first exposure for someone is so fulfilling to me, it's like opening up a whole world for them. Apply within.

Q: I'm older than you, how do you feel about that? A: I like it with the right person. A lot of it is attitude based, if I have a sub that's older than me, I expect them to be proportionately mature, and that should reflect in the dynamic.

Q: I don't really want to be 1 of 20 girls you're involved with. A: Not a question, but I can assure you my intention is to find one to cultivate a real emotional and mental bond with. Hard to give your all in this regard to more than one person.

Q: So you're looking for someone to date? A: Not necessarily. Especially if you're a lot younger than me. I would never say no if that's what ended up happening, but this is a form of intimacy that doesn't require labelled dating.

Q: You seem a little pretentious. A: We all have our faults. Also not a question.

I can't wait to hear from you! Reply with a fruit in your intro and tell me what in this post stood out to you. Here's to the start of what you've been missing!