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I am particular. I intend to find something dark, fun, and cathartic with the right person. If the rest of this resonates with you, you will understand.

I am 34, 6’2”, educated, active, fit, live in Lower Manhattan, and work in tech.

My tastes and interests are eclectic. You will always find me up for a good conversation about history, politics, or philosophy. I am attracted to intelligence, erudition, and curiosity. I am open to fairly high levels of nerdiness.

You might not be the kind of person other people would suspect is drawn to submitting themselves sexually. You might even come across as rather innocent. That is fine. As long as you have a twisted, filthy side underneath.

I have always been enthralled by the psychological aspects of power exchange. When I am with you, I will want to get inside your head.

I will want to slip into the darkest corner of your mind and force you to confront your most perverse desires. I will want to make you dress up like a slut, make you beg me to slap you, use your mouth, and then force you to look at your face in the mirror. I will want to hypnotize you and program you with embarrassing triggers. I will want to make you drink from a bowl on my floor on all fours like an animal. I will want to use your cunt like a hole made just for my pleasure. The idea of breaking someone down, then building them back up under my hand – conditioning, training, and molding them – and the intimacy of someone surrendering that much control to me: these are the things that have haunted me since my earliest sexual fantasies.

My specific kinks all revolve around this theme, and all come in their own flavors: bondage, sadism, humiliation, degradation, sexual slavery, erotic hypnosis, brainwashing, behavior modification, consensual non-consent, domestic servitude, and some aspects of traditional gender roles.

That is a lot, too much for many. And that is totally fine. Not everyone is looking for that kind of control and debasement. Not everyone gets a warm, needy feeling fluttering between their legs when they think about the word "slave".

That is also way too much for anything casual. At least, not for me. I am looking for a long-term relationship with all the other aspects that come with that. I want to care about the person I do these things to. I want us to be a part of each other's lives. I want to balance intense experiences with moments of fun, comfort, and lightness. And I want our dynamic to fulfill something as deep and important for you as it does for me.

I am looking for people in or around NYC (I could settle for New Jersey) who want something in person.

Physical and mental compatibility are both important to me. Ideally, you are fit/hwp and frankly don't mind being thrown around a little.

If you are not local and any of this clicked with you, I am always down to chat with other similarly inclined kinky people but I am not looking for a relationship or dynamic starting primarily online at the moment.

Regardless of whether or not this is for you, I wish whoever reads this the best in your search for whatever you seek on here.