I am at a point in my life where I know the future I need. If you’re on this subreddit, you may also believe that a core part of that future is a certain sort of relationship.
I am a 37-year-old dominant man with the usual spectrum of beautiful experiences, wounds, strengths, and insecurities. I have had kinky inclinations since some of my earliest childhood memories and have wasted years of my life pretending to be vanilla. I am affectionate, attentive, as well as intellectually and emotionally engaged in my play. It’s my favourite creative outlet and I find kink and bdsm play beautiful.

I want to be a lover, always more than anything. So, I tend to focus my energies on the intricacies, fantasies, and needs of my partner. I find it fulfilling when I discover something new in my partner she didn’t know was there. I always want to inspire more euphoria, deeper sub space, closer communication, and deeper reflections on our interactions, because all of these things matter when they’re shared. I always want more with my someone and of my someone.

Because of my focus on my partner’s sexuality, I’ve tended to take on my partners’ kinks. Now that I’m 37, it’s quite a collection. I’m an experimentalist, and happy to add to it. We can discuss these details. I’m quite open and non-judgmental.

What’s more important is the future. I know that I ultimately need a total power exchange relationship to feel fulfilled. It will be built on trust and open communication, which will take patience and time. If that’s not something you could ever see for yourself, I don’t think we will be compatible. I just know I need more if I’m going to end up where I need to be.

I am 6’2, 220lbs. 6.5-7”, with hyperspermia. I am also bearded with a shaved head.

If the chemistry is right, I am quite open to relocating. That could be good for me. I work as a freelance writer.