While I ultimately want a kink and D/s dynamic type of relationship, I'm going to start with the basics outside of those criteria because I find that's something that can trip people up right off-the-bat.

Please be 45ish or older, with no children living at home (or at all), and not already married, in a relationship, or looking to expand your existing ENM or poly relationships. I'm not interested in being a second, third, or fourth wheel to someone else's already-existing, committed thing.

I have an unusual schedule that works best with a night owl, someone semi-retired, retired, or who works flexible hours. I start my day around 1pm and usually head to bed around 4am. So I want to talk in the evenings and late night hours on a regular basis. If you go to bed by 10 or 11pm every night, that won't work well with my schedule. I also work weekends. My "weekend" is Tuesday through Friday. That's right, I get four days off a week; which means I have a lot of free time I would love to spend getting to know you and forming a special bond.

I get interested in, aroused by, and am more in tune with people who write (or type) well. There's something about sentences with proper punctuation, grammar, capitalization, and decent vocabulary that makes a person sound "higher" than me, more well-thought out with what they say, with intention and purpose behind everything said. It establishes without saying that someone dominant is speaking to me and helps me get into a different state of mind than I would be in otherwise. I hope you also like to write/chat online because that's where we're meeting and would be spending a lot of our time. I will voice/video verify if we move forward together but I do not enjoy voice or video format for longer periods of time. I DO want to meet in person and establish something "real" that way too, if things go well. I am not looking for something that will be online only.

I hope you are honest and value honesty because building a relationship necessitates those things. If you don't tell me what you like or don't like (or me tell you) then we wouldn't be learning truths about each other and could be trying to build more on things that are disliked rather than liked. Good and honest communication is very important to me and I need someone who values that as well.

I have a somewhat dominant (and protective of self) sounding personality up front until there is some trust and connection established with new people. But I am not A Dominant. I yearn to let that other side of me out that has been shut down for so long.

As far as kinks for the future go, I don't have a lot of experience, and I definitely don't have a lot of recent experience with which to refresh my memory on what I really like I don't like. Most things I haven't tried or tried so long ago as to not be remembered well. But I do have a hypnosis kink (as the receiving subject); I do want to try clamps and clothespins again, hoods, blindfolds, doting attention on my person in ways they enjoy, oxygen deprivation, breath play, and I do miss sex, but I'm not in a hurry or desperate to rush along intimacy-related things until we have established a connection of some sort.

I am not interested in degradation, 1950's housewife related things, discipline, spankings (slaps in other places besides the ass would probably be okay), or scat play.

I believe I have a fairly open mind for trying new things because, in some ways, everything with a new person is new. Just because I didn't like something in the past, doesn't mean I might not like it when presented differently in the future. I'd rather try than not try because you never know if you're going to find your next, new, favorite thing if you don't.

You can message or send me a chat on Reddit, but I'll want to move to Discord sooner, rather than later, because I find Reddit to be unreliable with sending me notifications of new contact and it has a more convenient chat format with voice calls being an option.

Looking forward to hearing from you.