I am an experienced Dominant male, seeking a submissive partner for a long term affair. I'm kinky, adventurous, intelligent, thoughtful, and deviant. Tall, fit, take good care of myself. I'm happily married and I have zero intention of ever changing that. I also believe that lust and love are two different things. That some sexual desires/needs you're just... born with, and some are created. A mixture of nurture AND nature. If you're someone like me? Someone who has had to hide their natural and innate desires and needs for the good of the relationship. Either way, that's the situation I'm in and I'm looking for a partner who's comfortable slotting into that role in my life. I would prefer something long-term and lasting.

As far as BDSM goes, if you're under the impression it's all "50 shades of grey", Rhianna songs, leather, and people pretending to be daddies and little girls, then you are looking for something different that what D/s is to me. If you recognize that those are just specific areas of BDSM that some are drawn to, then that's perfect. However, personally, I am not drawn towards age-play, master-slave, or heavy protocol play. I want a real interaction with a real person that has a real D/s dynamic and flow to it. I don't do scenes, I'm not a rigger, none of this is "playing" to me.

I've started with things I'm not looking for, so here's a list of things I am looking for from the submissive side of my prospective partner. Eager. Communicative. Engaged(Conversationally, etc). Submissive. Understands that being submissive isn't a complete personality in and of itself. Honest. Attractive, intelligent and eager to learn. Eager to be taught and trained. The thought of that makes your body throb. Makes your brain fuzzy. Makes your lips open slightly and a hungry look come on to your face. Or maybe it's just electricity that goes up and down your nerves as you think about it being done to you. I'm not picky when it comes to that reaction, as long as it's there. The reaction your partner is incapable of giving you.

Sexy stuff? I've tried quite a bit. I've been involved in D/s relationships for over a decade and I've never been afraid of trying something new if it was interesting. There's lots of things I enjoy, so here's some thoughts that made me hard the last 7 days: Cock worship. Anal. Breath play. Spankings. Face fucking. Bondage. Mind break. Cum play. Orgasm denial. Begging. Clamps. Sensory deprivation.

All of that is very heavily focused on the sexual side. I'm also looking for something akin to friendship. I like having a friendly relationship with my submissive. Having opinions doesn't make you a "brat". I like chatting throughout the day, talking about whatever strikes either of our fancy. Someone I can be honest and open with, and can offer the same to. I have a very high paced and stressful job. I have an excellent career. I am driven, motivated, and intelligent. I own a home, a car, I'm doing quite well for myself. Come be the missing piece.

And if you aren't the missing piece, but this post made you curious, feel free to reach out. Happy to have some conversations and abate any curiosity.

And if you don't match what I'm looking for, no need to be offended. I'm not just looking for anyone, I'm looking for a specific fit for my situation. It's not personal.