I'm 39, 6'3" around 185lbs. I'm single, no kids and newish to the Boise area, open to something online. I work in the digital creative world. I love the outdoors and enjoy camping, backpacking and skiing as much as a night in with wine, a fire and a good TV show, movie or music. I enjoy learning new skills and creative outlets though school style learning has never really worked well for me. Ideally looking for something in person in the Boise area, but open to someone within a short travel distance.

I'm looking to connect with a submissive who is independent and responsible in their work and daily lives, but who is calmed and comforted when giving up control, being told what to do and being taken care of. Most importantly I'm looking for someone who takes this seriously and is willing to put in the effort to communicate regularly and develop a fun, kinky dynamic. I'm not looking to chat once or twice, but something more long term and on going, where we can build the trust and intimacy BDSM benefits most from.

I'm most interested in playing with orgasm control and denial, masturbation instructions. I'm very much into outfit control and anything appearance related. Also into bladder control if you're interested in that, degradation and humiliation.

As for a more specific list of kinks, I'm into orgasm control/denial, sexual and non-sexual tasks, bondage, choking, watersports, playful name calling, mild humiliation, edging, wearing toys out, asking permission for regular activities, protocols and behavioral guidelines. And I'm very interested in and open minded to your kinks, so if I didn't list something, tell me all about it. My only hard limits I can think of are blood, knives, scat and diapers/exteme age regression.

I would prefer to exchange SFW photos at some point after we've talked a bit, feel comfortable and feel like we click. Ultimately mutual attraction plays a role in any relationship or dynamic.

I know this was long but if you've read this far, if you're serious about finding intimacy within a kinky D/s dynamic and taking the time to develop this type of bond, if you're willing to commit to regular, engaging communication, if you take comfort in giving up control and take pride in your submission, send me a l chat and tell me about yourself and what you are looking for. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.