Hi there,

As implied in my title, I'm in an ethically non-monogamous relationship, so would only be looking to connect with other poly-inclined people. That's important to put out as a disclaimer! Likewise that I'm searching solo, not looking to swing or unicorn hunt - my partner has another long-term partner besides me and is perfectly satisfied with that arrangement.

With that out of the way, about me: I'm 33, cis-male, 6'2" tall, glasses, (usually plaited) long blond hair, not particularly athletic, been described as a having a kinda nerdy viking look. Pretty introverted (thanks, social anxiety...), and quite likely non-neurotypical, though undiagnosed. Day-to-day smalltalk is pretty much my worst nightmare, but if you fancy animated discussions on topics of boardgames, DnD, rock and metal music, sci-fi and fantasy, politics, cute animals, or just meme shitposts it becomes much harder to shut me up.

From the Leicestershire area, happily living with partner and meta - means we're rarely short of players for boardgames, but glad to welcome others to the table! In fact, we aim for the kitchen table variety of polyamory, with the belief that it's much healthier in any configuration of relationship if all parties can get along with each other.

With regards to my sexuallity, I think that I fall under pansexual - only ever had hetero relationships, but will freely admit that I can feel attraction towards some AMAB individuals (and am comfortable with everything that may come with that), just so far I haven't found that individuals who present as traditionally-masculine do much for me. But emotional connection and compatibility are far more important to me than physical characteristics in the end. If I don't feel like I really get along with someone, I would never consider any kind of intimate relationship.

So, kink, the reason we're on this subreddit... I've been dabbling and enjoying bdsm play since around 2015. I'm sub to my partner, and although we do joke about things in daily life, actual d/s activity stays inside the bedroom, and I can't imagine ever being comfortable with anything else. Hierarchies in relationships are not for me, along with any 24/7 or micromanagement dynamics. I quite enjoy submitting to a dominant partner, but I also have some switchy inclinations, and would be very interested in meeting the right person to explore that side of things with as well.

Dom or sub, what makes me happiest is seeing that the person I'm with is thoroughly enjoying themselves. I think I'm very much into being a pleasure-giver, regardless of role. Of course, I do have an appreciation for bondage, toys and flavours of masochism as well. I'm not going to list out a shopping list of kinks, those kind of things are more interestign to learn about as you get to know someone I think, just with the stipulation that I lean towards the gentler side of bdsm.

In general, I'm looking to connect with people relatively local. I've tried long distance dating in the past and it didn't really work out. I'd state my interested age range as around 23-35. I much prefer DM's to reddit chat - always happier to see a lengthy, well-thought out message than a single line "Hey, how r u?"

So, if I sound like I might be not a complete waste of your time, drop me a message. Maybe see if we can find some shared interests to gush about to avoid the abject horrors of awkward first introductions!