Hey there!

Thank you for opening this post. Please read the entire thing, or at least enough to fool me into thinking you've read it all.

Okay. So. Yes. Let me start. The post. The post by Psari. Psari's post:

I am a 26 year old woman, and I've always known I have a big submissive side. It's been a true journey exploring this, and I've come far enough by now that I know I prefer to engage in dynamics in real life. Whereas I've had some experiences in that realm, its not nearly enough for my needs, curiosities, and enthusiasm to be satiated. However, there are some issues here.

1. I cannot separate submissive feelings towards somebody from romantic feelings. If I'm your submissive, I'm more than likely head over heels for you. Of course you don't have to be unable to separate them as well, but I just want to stress that I am looking for both a romantic and a dominant partner. My submissiveness is part of my personality which comes out for the right person, and I hope your dominance is part of yours.
2. Whereas I like to think I am very kinky, for me to want to engage in them takes quite a long time. Note, I do like to talk about BDSM, especially if I have developed a little crush on -or am particularly interested in- you, but I don't want to engage in the activities/e-sex/whatever yet. Just objectively discussing them. Do you know what I mean? I don't really know how to explain it very clearly, but if you know, you know.
3. The psychological dynamic (or start thereof) is a necessity for my sexual interest to develop. Without that baseline, I don't get excited.
4. Relating to point 2 and 3, safety is of absolute essence. Both with regards to consent, but also genuine trust between both parties. If somebody wants to dive into kinky fuckery right away, it is a clear sign that we will not be compatible.
5. I am not particularly outgoing, and I haven't worked up the courage yet to go to BDSM oriented gatherings in my neighborhood. Therefore I haven't met many locals with similar interests, but I would like to. Hence my post here, maybe there is somebody in the Netherlands or Germany that will click with me.
6. I am a masochist, and would like to find a sadist. It would not feel right for me to ask somebody to hurt me when they are not a sadist. My masochistic side is one I would love to explore further. You get the gist.
7. I am a tall (1.80m/5'11) and big woman. The height I can't change, the fat I can. However, I don't want you to respond if you cannot see yourself being attracted to a fat woman. I would understand, and it is not a problem at all, but lets not try to connect if that's already out of the window haha. For my own preferences, looks wise, I do have to admit I usually like men with my height or taller. Bodytype doesn't matter too much, though I prefer midsize and higher. In the end that is all superficial of course, I know that, but with openness and honesty in mind those are my preferences.
8. Discord is my messaging app of choice, also because of the voice calls. I love shooting the shit and joking around with people (in text or voicechat), so I'd love to find somebody here to do that with.

Alright I think I'm flying off the handle with my list. I promise I'm not always this stiff... You get the idea though, hopefully. Everybody is different and in the end we all like to find a partner such that both parties' interpretation of what BDSM is aligns. For this, clear communication is needed. However, I would love for your to treat all of the text above as some sort of check as to whether we would fit together. I don't want to dive into things whatsoever, but I wanted to be clear about things that may be dealbreakers for you.

So in short, what I'm most definitely not looking for is somebody to hop on in and order me around. All I want to ask for, for now, is to talk. If we click, we will talk again. Then if we click again, once more we shall converse. Maybe we even click our way into meeting up, wouldn't that be nice? Anyway, you see the pattern. In case we don't click however, there's no hard feelings and we go our separate ways. More weight than that is not what I intend to find at first.

Oh, also, I prefer men my age or older (up until about 35). Oh oh, one last little thing, we are all adults here with busy lives, as am I. I would like to ask for some patience in my responding and I will grant you the same. Thank you in advance, I sure do appreciate it!

Much love,

Psari

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