Hello!

I'm a current resident of Kansas City, but I've spent most of my childhood and adult life in the NYC metro. I moved here in 2015 for a great job, and have since made the city my home. I currently own a house in the Midtown area and share it with my cute little pup. I love living within the city and don't envision living far away from it.

I'm attractive, slim, and in great shape. I have deep, dark eyes, and a full head of dark hair that's steadily getting peppered with greys. I keep my facial hair short and tidy, with full coverage. I currently do not have any tattoos. Most people think I look younger than my age. With respect to your appearance, I don't really have strong preferences. With the exception of a fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, I live a happy and comfortable life that isn't lacking anything. My goal is to connect with a compelling woman and develop a romantic partnership that endures. We can go at whatever pace works for both of us.

I can pass (and do!) pass background checks due to my job. I have no addictions and do not have an addictive personality. I have no unmanageable debt or unpaid bills. Hopefully, you've got some degree of stability and minimal drama in your own life. Ideally, you're independent and have a job that you enjoy. Politically, I'm a passionate progressive/liberal. If you have some "conservative" values, that may not necessarily be a source of conflict. However, if you're a zealous supporter and defender of the current incarnation of the Republican party and the MAGA movement, its values, and its policies, we are not likely to be a good fit. I am also not a religious person, but it is okay if you are as long as you accept me as I am. Lastly, I don't have children and would prefer to date someone without children or whose kids are older and independent. The double-income, no-kids life sounds pretty idyllic to me.

Some things I enjoy:

• Food: I have a very adventurous palate and love trying new foods. I actually try to avoid eating at the same restaurant twice to force myself to broaden my culinary experiences. If you're a vegan/vegetarian, I respect your choice. I'm open to the idea of some version of vegetarianism myself. I'm also a competent cook, though I don't enjoy cooking. I would strongly prefer a partner who does. I promise that I'm great at doing the dishes and cleaning up in the kitchen.

• Fitness: My health is important to me, especially as I age. I exercise regularly and also run. I’d welcome a workout partner.

• Film/Television/Podcasts: I love watching movies and going to the theater, especially for spectacles like Marvel films. I'm also constantly listening to podcasts, typically of the political variety.

• Reading: Hard to beat being curled up with my Kindle and my dog. I mostly read non-fiction, with an emphasis on political and societal issues.

• Music: I really enjoy live music. I'm tolerant of just about any genre but gravitate towards indie, pop, and EDM. I love discovering new music, so if you want to share something you're vibing to and think I might dig it, share it with me!

• Games: I tend to play single-player video games that let me pick up and play or pause anytime. I especially like to play board games with a group of friends. My favorites are ones that involve some sort of social component and deduction, like The Resistance. Going out for trivia nights at bars is also one of my favorite things to do.

• Animals: Lover of all animals, hater of insects. I have one dog. He's a small and fluffy Pekingese and he loves attention. He's an absolute butthead, but I promise he'll love you, and you'll love him.

• Cleaning: I keep both my home and myself neat and tidy. I’m something of a minimalist as well. Not a big fan of collecting tons of trinkets and tchotchkes and other things that gather dust.

• Drugs: I only drink socially and in moderation. I don't smoke anything, and would not date someone who smokes a lot of anything. It smells gross and makes you taste gross. I will sometimes do a low-dose edible or a psychedelic on occasion. It's okay with me if you casually enjoy alcohol, marijuana, or "lighter" drugs more than I do. I have no addictions whatsoever and do not want to date someone with any dependencies.

• Travel: I'm more of a homebody, but I do enjoy road trips. I would like to drive across the country in a camper someday. While I do enjoy hiking and "glamping", I'm not big into prolonged camping. I mentioned I am very clean, right?

It is perfectly fine if you don't share all my interests. You are allowed to like what you like. As long as we align on our core values and ideals, you should take a chance on me. Please be serious about meeting in person. My idea of hell is endless texting. If you're interested, send me Reddit mail and let's talk! Please include a picture of your face with your message. It's really not much different than if we were on a dating app. I will ask for a picture if you didn't include one to start with. Being weird about this would lead me to believe you're not actually serious and I'll likely just move on.

That's cool, but why is this post in "BDSMPersonals"?

Glad you asked. I generally find that I'm most sexually compatible with kinky, submissive women who can fuel my dominant side. My kink proclivities mostly boil down to sometimes enjoying rough sex with a partner who enthusiastically consents to being used that way. What "rough sex" means for us is a conversation we will have when ready, and that includes understanding and respecting your limits. I do want you to understand that this is not critically important to the success of a relationship for me. I am also not at all interested in polyamory or ethical non-monogamy. Though I am not at all bisexual, it's fine with me if you are. Lastly, I'm not interested in a "24/7 BDSM lifestyle" relationship. Outside the bedroom, I like a normal, healthy dynamic with my partner as an equal.

Long-distance responders: I enjoy hearing from you, but only if you're willing to make an actual effort to meet me in person after we talk for a bit and get to know one another. Ideally, you're in a position where you'll be able to relocate to Kansas City to live with me in a hypothetical future in which we're both committed and madly in love with one another.

Hope to hear from you!