So like.. I've been on the hunt for a while. I've learned a lot, loved a lot, got hurt a lot (not in the fun way). I want to make this as concise and specific as possible because what I want is very particular and I don't want to waste anyone's time. I don't know if I should post on BDSM or Polyr4r, just know that I want a relationship with my Dom and I also love love love D/S and it needs to be a part of the relationship.

First, about me:

- I'm 5'7/8, overweight (but working on it :'|) , brown hair, idk what the fuck color my eyes are - maybe green? blue? https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/846107419603894315/1110910845485068329/20230520_224501.jpg?ex=652fd2d9&is=651d5dd9&hm=842c635ebe8c1f99fad34fd0a417380fcce759fb93ca98e368135849140ad41a&=&width=419&height=558 (that's me)
https://fetlife.com/users/17080718 (and my fet!)
- I love video games to a fault ( I spend too much on them ) but they are my passion. I would love to make my own one day but we'll see
- I also love to draw and dabble in hobbies. I'd love to learn how to wood carve but my thumbs hurt so much from my first attempt haha.
-I'm self conscious as FUCK but this is can be remedied. Mostly by letting me make you cum a lot either on VC or Cam Later when I'm sure you won't murder/blackmail me). Basically you showing me that you are attracted to me, like, a lot.
- I like to have deep conversations - talk about our lives and get close or even just talk about your passions. I love hearing people talk about things they love.
- I love voice calls. One of the things I'm attracted to in a person is their voice. I have fallen asleep on call with people before and it is so nice and soothing-I fucking hate big bang theory. I straight up will not date anyone who likes that show. I'm not even joking.-
Sex is my love language. I adore the intimacy of it.
-Kinks: CNC (my top kink), Sleep play, Impact play, bondage, pet play, praise, teaching me stuff (Idk why this is hot to me but being guided through sex and praised for doing well gets me going haha) - I'm sure there are more but I can't remember all of them. Those are just the ones I like a lot.
- Limits: Scat, Watersports, Illegal shit, I don't mind a little blood but not spewing rivers of it haha

What I want:
- Age range: 30-42
- Someone who can talk with me on VCs or text through the day if possible (I'm a busy lady sometimes so I can understand people not being able to right away)
- I'm on the fence on the type of dom I like. I LOVE sadism, but I love it even more with a loving preface. Brush my hair, call me your princess then assert your dominance over me roughly. The contrast makes it so so so good.
- You aren't built like Hercules/ Fit AF (THis is weird but like.. A lot of people who messaged me last time were insanely fit and I'm not so I get too worried I'm getting played LOL HELP IM SORRY ITS A WEIRD REQUIREMENT)
- You like to talk on the phone and have deep conversations
- I don't mind if you're married or have a primary, but I'd prefer if I was a secondary (or primary if you aren't partnered at the time) because I don't find it easy to split time across more people. I don't want to feel like I'm on borrowed time, yknow?
- You have passion. Apathy is a turn off for me. I want to talk to someone who has hobbies or wants.
- You are left leaning (no anti vax no anti lgbt)- You don't hunt or own guns
- You think sex is an absolute cornerstone of a relationship and a display of love and affection.

I know it's a lot, but I don't wanna sift through 100 DMs of people I'm completely incompatible with and you don't wanna waste your time writing out something that is gonna lead to nothing.

Also I hate reddit chat so please have discord if we hit it off.