Greetings, thanks for clicking! I am a 31-year-old Dominant living and thriving on the Third Coast. I am gainfully employed, financially secure, of healthy mental state, and enjoy lots of activities that keep me busy.

I was born and raised in Wisconsin, and am employed in a career path that allows me to exercise my natural managerial skills, calculating efficiencies, and task management. I am a driven, professional, and intelligent cog in the machine, climbing the ladders of the success I build.

What am I looking for? What or who is my ideal partner and submissive? Ideally someone grounded, healthy of mind and body, who has interests and hobbies of her own, and who cares about her appearance without being vain. A partner who is honest, open-minded, communicative, supportive, and who treats service industry staff with kindness will mesh with me very well.

A Scoop of Vanilla

I am the colorful shirt-wearing, terrible joke-telling, constantly moving Midwest man. I take pleasure in whipping up cocktails, traveling the world, and spinning wrenches on one of my perpetually broken cars. I enjoy a nice glass of rum, searching the web for my next project car, or playing a video game.

I am 5’9”, hazel eyes, light brown hair, and have a mild Midwest bod. I have been called handsome and take time in curating my appearance. I work out a few days per week, eat well, keep my appearance trimmed and clean, and am definitely someone you could introduce to your grandmother. I can definitely rock the Tony Soprano dad look.

A Scoop of Blue Moon

I was first introduced to BDSM at the age of 21 and the empowerment and confidence I felt has propelled me to new heights that I did not think achievable. Because of this confidence, I am an open book in discussing who I am, and I want to be vulnerable to someone despite the walls of protection I have built.

Domination means I have a responsibility to myself and to my partner, to being a clear and concise communicator, and to allowing an exchange of ideas, thoughts, and actions between myself and my partner. Most importantly, however, is that we exchange our trust in that our vulnerabilities are safe in each other's hands. I have no intention of immediately pressing Domination upon you but I instead want to earn your submission.

I thrive on that beautiful and delicate balance of give and take, spankings and deep embraces, tanned skin and red butt cheeks. My inner administrator loves structure and communication and believes the two can exist in a wonderfully choreographed dance. How we tango is up to what we create.

"Everything comes to who knows how to wait."

I do not rush my role in all of this but believe in a slow burn - if the end result is the same no matter the pace, then you might as well slow down and enjoy the view. I enjoy meandering conversations about everything and nothing. Tell me about your favorite ice cream, where do you wish to visit in the world, your favorite pair of underwear, how you want to feel a sting on your buttocks as you sit.

Oh kinks…

How have we not spoken about kinks (please imagine this in a Jerry Seinfeld voice)?! I could go ahead and list ALL of my kinks, but I will not. Instead, the three heavy hitters for me are creampie, orgasm control/denial, and impact play. I have tons of others but I want to be able to discuss that in an organic way in place of checking off boxes.

The Closer

I am spending too much time on this and my anxiety of “what have I left out”, or “is this too long”, or “what if I get no replies” is making me want to cut this off. So I will. If anything I have said here jives with you, shoot me a message and let us see where the journey takes us.