About Me - 35 years old and lean build, brown eyes, dirty blonde curly hair, probably smiling for no reason, Caucasian/Mediterranean. Will trade pics in DMs. Doing my best right now to access my extrovert and optimist energy, but I do have a sarcastic side. In the last couple of years I've embraced being an adult and fully gotten my shit together; professionally, emotionally, financially, and skincare routine. Dominant most of the time, but enjoy switching. Physical touch is my love language, cuddlers to the front of the line please. Polyamorous, partnered, dating solo, and no children. Social drinker, 420 friendly and a responsible psyconaut.

I stay busy with a demanding job and a schedule full of social events, but know how to make time for the things and people who are important to me. Life is short and time is precious, so I respect other people's time and don't flake on plans. No one likes feeling uncertain or guessing in relationships, so I do my best to be a direct and honest communicator with partners about my feelings. I am respectful of other's opinions, but am liberal leaning and in the medical field so I may not vibe with very conservative types or science deniers.

The Kinky Stuff - Communication - I find women who can communicate what they like and don't like incredibly sexy. If you can tell me what gets you off and why, please trust that I will press that button as often and hard as I can. I think I've done a fair bit of self reflection on my kinks and why they excite me and want to find a partner who has done the same.

Breathplay - When it is done in a safe way to manage the risks it is incredibly exciting. Everyone wants to talk about sub space and other altered states but not enough people are talking about the adrenaline rush you get when a partner you trust chokes you. I prefer carotid presses over any of the trachea chokes (it's only takes 15lbs of pressure to collapse a trachea!) or baroreceptor chokes but am familiar with all of them. I've made sure to be on the receiving end of breathplay so I know what it feels like for my partners and make sure to agree on a nonverbal safeword ahead of time. The orgasms just hit different when the adreneline is pumping and your head is swimming from a little oxygen deprivation.

Dirty Talk - I like to be very verbal with partners and praise/degradation. When you can get past the self conscious bit and say whatever you feel in the moment it's very liberating and thrilling.

Orgasm Control/Edging/Post Orgasm Torture - I can't be the only guy who is jealous of women's orgasms. They have men beat when it comes to duration, intensity, variety, and frequency. I enjoy being able to bring a partner to the edge of cumming, being able to read body language and intuit that fine line to prolong the state of near ecstasy. Then when's its time I want to make the orgasm last as long as it can, and keep the stimulation going until it feels overwhelming and you desperately need it to stop.

Restraints - Can you be knot dyslexic? Because I swear I have that. Not a rop top by any stretch of the imagination but I enjoy restraints and can accomplish most of my goals with a silk necktie.

Kinks can be sexually transmitted, if there is something a partner finds exciting I can usually get into it as well. My list of "No's" is very short, so if I didn't list anything just talk to me about it. Also into: Dirty Talk, Ass Play/Worship, Cumplay, Impact Play, Power Exchange, Erotic Massage, Hair Pulling, Wax Play, Roleplay, Primal, Exhibitionism, Test Results.

Interests/Hobbies

Reading - I try to read things that help me better understand the human condition. But also trashy Sci-Fi, silly murder mysteries and books that make me sad. Send a recommendation that will wrinkle my brain!

Fitness Stuff - Mountain Biking, Wake Boarding, Paddleboarding, Swimming, Running, Hiking, Camping, Bouldering, Rowing Machine.

Live Music/Dancing - Love to catch live shows at places like The Concourse Project, Emo's, Far Out Lounge and Mohawk. If we are talking about dancing, Barbarella's, Mala Vida, or Outer Heaven play stuff I like to dance (terribly) to.

Plant Daddy - It's tough to keep stuff alive out here in the Texas heat but I have way to many cacti and succulents. Let's talk plants!

Pottery - I got into throwing pottery on a wheel as a outlet for creative energy and to manage stress. If you need any lop sided ceramic pieces let me know.

Pets - Forget nudes, send pet pics please. I have a sassy pug and and goofy mini schnauzer that need puppy play dates. If you have a pet I definitely want to meet them and bribe them with food to be my friend.

Cooking - I like to feed people, I think it's a genetic thing. My favorite things to cook are Asian stir fry, chili, and Lomo Saltado.

Movies/TV - Horror movies, classic movies, trash reality shows, comfort sitcoms I've seen a million times before.

What I am Looking for -
I am looking for a physical relationship, not an online one. Please be local to the Austin or Central Texas area and serious about at least going on a date to check the vibe before going any further. I am not interested in long distance relationships or texting buddies.

Personality wise, I am attracted to women who are intelligent, independent and have a sense of humor. My age range is fairly flexible, I think as long as we understand each other's pop culture references that will work. (But if I had to give a number 25-45)

Partners who are intentionally seeking ethically non monogamous relationships. I respect monogamous relationships and don't want a monogamous person to compromise on that. You don't need previous experience with non monogamy, just asking that you at minimum have done the self reflection necessary to know if you would be OK with it or not. Unethical non monogamy is a hard no for me, not interested getting involved in anyone who is cheating.

A romantic connection, so something more than a hookup or play partner, at minimum FWB. I would like a partner in crime type who shares some of my interests, wants to do fun date night shit, and I can spoil with affection. I am open to developing a long term relationship where we can build trust and communication. But at the same time cautious about climbing the relationship escalator before agreeing on where it is going and long term plans.