If you've seen this post before, it's because I haven't had much luck to this point, but I'm not giving up. I'm hoping to find someone down to talk either here, or through discord while we get to know each other, see where things go. I'm not looking for a one time thing, or to just get you off. As per the title, I'm genuinely seeking some kind of connection and a real dybamic, and seeing where it leads, whether we decide to just be friends or more. It would very likely start as an online/long distance dynamic considering I live in Hawaii. Pics will be provided based on request, as I'm not entirely comfortable with my face being public given the circumstances.

About me:

• 5'7", ~240lbs. Half Asian. Dark brown, wavy hair. Glasses. Decent length beard.

• I'm a nerd. I enjoy video games, anime, reading, though I also enjoy lifting and hiking. I'm hoping you're at least open minded about it or are also into it.

• Close to a decade of experience regarding kink. Used to be a member of the local kink scene, and have engaged in different types of dynamics, both casually and in committed relationships.

As for the fun stuff:

• To name a few kinks: anal, impact play, sensory play, orgasm denial/control/edging. Bondage/shibari. CNC. Role-playing. Wax play. Breath play. Degradation. The list can keep going.

• for dynamics, the majority of them have been ddlg/traditional in the past. Nowadays however, I've been pulling away from ddlg as it's no longer really me. I can be caring, I can be wholesome. I can be sweet. But I'm also firm. I can be strict.

Soft limits: drug use, fire play, knife play, fear/adrenaline kinks

Hard limits: scat, water sports, needles, anything involving animals or hard drugs.

What I'm seeking in a partner:

• Someone who knows what they want, or are willing to experiment. Someone with goals in life. They don't need to be grandiose, or pertain to some amazing career or life path.

• I prefer feminine partners. Note that I didn't explicitly say women. I'm pansexual, but have a preference for softer, more feminine features regardless of your gender or self identity.

• I like women of pretty much all body types, but if you're male/nb, I have a preference for thinner frames for you. Sorry, but I like what I like.

• If you're nerdy and goth, that's a huge bonus. You don't have to like everything I do, but if you don't, at least respect our differences.

If this interests you, please don't hesitate to shoot me a dm or start a chat. I don't typically respond right away as I'm busy with work and grad school, but I'll try to respond to everyone as best I can.