After having lackluster results with traditional dating apps, and not having great luck finding posts describing *quite* what I'm looking for, I'm finally sucking it up and posting my own.

You:
Please be between 30-50 and local to the DMV area. You should be willing to meet in person pretty soon.

What I want:
A loving, kinky, in-person, long-term relationship built on trust and equal partnership. I want us to support each other in our day-to-day lives and also be able to explore our kinks and sexual desires, judgement-free. I would love to eventually explore a 24/7 D/s dynamic.

About me:
I'm 38F, 5'1", 130#, petite, fair-skinned. Girl next door kind of look. I've been divorced a few years now, with 50/50 custody of my 2 kids who I love and prioritize in my life. I'm also a dog mom, homeowner, have a good job that I enjoy, and have lots of therapy mileage. LOTS. :P

But what about the nerdiness? I'm an engineer in the tech field, introverted, like to read and research, enjoy sci-fi and fantasy. I'm a homebody. This can be hard in the dating scene but I don't love bars and clubs (too loud and too many people!) and I don't drink often. For me, a fun adventure is choosing a new restaurant, park, winery, or old town to explore. Or hey, let's stay in all weekend. I'm sure we can find ways to entertain ourselves. <insert naughty face>

Some might say I'm outspoken and opinionated. I say, fuck yes I am. But in an endearing way of course. My baby face and small stature give the impression of youth and innocence, which really never stops being fun because I'm neither. Despite outward appearances, I consider myself capable and independent in everyday life. I'm used to taking control and making decisions, which I think is what makes it feel so freeing to give that control up sexually.

Kink and sex:
Is very important to me. BDSM is something I've been interested in even before I knew there was a name for it. My marriage wasn't safe for that kind of exploration so it's really been in the years since my divorce that I've been able to explore that side of myself. It's been fun learning more about it and I've realized I need kink in a relationship to be happy and feel fulfilled.

I have switched in the past but tend more towards submissive. I'm a bit of a masochist but don't enjoy pain to the extent that it causes permanent damage or draws blood. I want a partner who wants to know me, my motivations, why my turn-ons turn me on. Because I want to know that about you too-- the psychological piece is so interesting to me and I love delving deeper into the whys and hows of a person's interests.

Something I love about the BDSM lifestyle is the emphasis on safety, consent, boundaries, and communicating what you want and need. Which, yes, I get that those are actually all great things to practice in any relationship... Hmm, if I write a book, maybe it should be called "Being A Submissive Unicorn Taught Me How To Effectively Advocate For Myself In Everyday Life". (Too verbose?)

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Select interests:

• D/s
• Impact play, particularly spanking and slapping
• Bondage
• Degradation
• Praise
• Exhibitionism
• Orgasm control, including denial and forced
• Lots of others, and I'm open to exploring and trying more

Limits: age play, scat, blood/permanent marking

If you're interested, send me a message (not chat) and tell me about yourself or what you liked about my post. Please include your age and approx location in the DC area. Thanks for reading!