Hi there! 33 year old male, from the East Midlands here.

Important first point, I practise ethical non-monogamy, and I'm only looking to connect with people who are cool with that! I'm happily in a poly relationship with a dominant partner, but as a switch, I'm now looking for a subby (or switchy) partner of my own.

Physically, I'm white, 6'2" tall, long blond hair (as in: down-to-my-ass long), beard, glasses. Generally described as a nerdy viking. Avid player of boardgames and tabletop rpg's, PC and Nintendo gamer, rock, metal and synthwave listener. All good conversation openers, since it’s nice to get to know someone before jumping into too much kink talk.

I consider myself pansexual, but don't typically find myself attracted to overtly masc-presenting individuals, though what someone identifies as, and what they have in their pants is all fine with me. Ultimately emotional connection is the deciding factor in whether to pursue any kind of relationship.

So, onto the kink stuff. As my title might suggest, I’m hoping to meet someone who likes to play with gags just as much as I do. While the collar is the classical symbol of submission, I think there’s something so much more intimate and displaying of trust, and yet also oddly liberating, in surrendering your voice to your partner - of course with pre-established limits and safe-signals, because there’s nothing sexier than safe, sane and consensual kink! Plus it really doesn’t hurt that I find the aesthetic and gag-noises hot as fuck!

Other kinks lean towards the softer style of domination: bondage, blindfolds, light impact play, nipple clamps, teasing, toys, oral and assplay. Probably more I haven’t thought about, but I’m open minded, and encourage partners to openly discuss their fetishes and fantasies. I’m a bit of a people pleaser, so facilitating something a partner really likes, or has wanted to try, is something I quite enjoy.

I am not interested in any elements of ageplay, TPE, 24/7, real violence, blood, scat, or non-consent. Guess I’m a casual, but I’m ok with that.

For any kind of relationship to have a chance, I’m looking for someone relatively local. I’ve tried long-distance dating, and it just didn’t really work out. Likewise, would state my interested age range as around 23-35.

If any of this sounds interesting, give a shout (or a Mpphh!). Longer, well-written messages will definitely win you more attention than "Hey, how r u?"