Hello, I'll start with something that no one really wants to hear but is quite relevant here; I'm a picky person. I don't want to get into a relationship with someone that I do not feel entirely comfortable with. While I want my Fom to push me to become the best version of myself, that cannot happen unless trust is first established. At 23 I've had a few relationships but none that really left me feeling fulfilled, perhaps because of my peculiar tastes and various personal issues that I will get into.

So what am I looking for? More than anything I want a protector, wether that takes the shape of a Daddy or a Soft Dom matters little, I'm quite flexible when it comes to kinks although I have my hard limits like anyone else. But I need to feel taken care of, at least mentally, I need to be able to lay my problems at your feet and trust that everything will be fine. Someone who is responsible, older than me and at least somewhat fit, being able to lift me easily is extremely attractive. I apologize but I'm not easily attracted to people who are overweight, I'm rather active myself and am looking for someone with a similar lifestyle. I want to be courted in a way, getting to know each other on a personal level is much more important than sex, and while sexual compatibility is very important it more than pales in comparison to the thrill of a stimulating conversation or simply being able to trust the other unconditionally. I'm open to relocating, nothing in my current life really holds me down and as long as you like cats I will be happy to move if I grow to trust you enough for that. I'm not looking for an online only relationship, or for any kind of open relationship where I would have to share. In my eyes the ideal relationship is one where we are both obsessed with each other. I will also only consider childfree people, and no one who had a child in the past. This is for personal reasons but I also have a crippling fear of pregnancy.

What about me? I'm physically quite petite, I'm short at 1m51 and weigh about 40 kilos, I have a few tattoos mostly on my arms and thigh and I have colored hair, I'm quite fond of pastel purple at the moment but that can change. I also dress in a bit of an original manner, I like thrifting and it makes my wardrobe a bit of a quirky affair. While I love the way that I dress and do my makeup I'm aware that not everyone does and I do get strange looks in public at times. Ideally this wouldn't bother you. I wouldn't call myself gorgeous but I have average looks with no major defects and while I don't have much cleavage I have been told that I have a nice ass. I love cats, I've been part of more than one rescue association, and all sorts of animals. I'm vegan and reluctant to even harm a spider so if you're the kind of person to proudly boast of being a carnivore we might not get along. In fact I have three cats that will take precedence over a great many things, and two of them are special needs. I like reading, sewing (mostly embroidery and experimental fashion), I like video games too, mostly simulations like Civ6, Stardew Valley and such but also dabble in action games like Destiny2 or Warframe. Being outdoors is always a joy for me but I'm not very fond of the beach, I prefer a walk in the forest or swimming in a lake to getting sand into the most unexpected places. Overall I would say I'm easy to get along with, I can have sharp opinions but I'm not the kind of person to consider them an universal truth, and I like pleasing people too much to truly argue about anything that isn't of utmost importance. My favorite conversation subjects would be anything to do with antique items or thrifting, historical fashion, talking about my favorite books or sometimes even exchanging memes. I grew up without a TV however so go easy on me with the pop culture references.

My ideal life, sometime in the future, would probably be to buy an old farm and renovate it myself. Living off the land and making most of my own things has always fascinated me and I have now quite the collection of skills to hopefully one day launch myself into such an adventure. Modern life can be an exhausting slog and I dream of quiet evenings by a wood fire, eating bread that I baked and thinking of what I could build next with my partner. So although this isn't something that will necessarily happen I would like a quiet life, and for home to be a haven more than anything.

I also have a fair share of childhood trauma and bad experiences with men, it's not something that is easy to deal with so please think about what it involves before messaging me.

What about kinks? I believe that BDSM is psychological before it is physical, in fact a relationship that flirts closely with a 24/7 lifestyle is probably what would suit me best. But my preferences at the moment are choking, marking (biting and bruising), pet play, shibari, free use, sensory deprivation, overstimulation and objectification. I'm also fond of CNC but I need to trust the person wholeheartedly. I would also like to experiment with primal play, or some kind of predator/prey dynamic but I have no experience with it. I would be interested in trying a lot of things but I have a few hard limits, any anal that isn't a plug, permanent harm and any kind of verbal degradation are off the table.

As a conclusion, if you think that you fit my criteria, are equipped to deal with someone with trauma without losing your cool and are a good communicator please shoot me a message. As an avid reader I certainly don't mind long messages, in fact they catch my attention more than something shorter.

I look forwards to reading about you!