Every type of dynamic in the power exchange spectrum has its own requirements. For some less “serious” dynamics that just means informed enthusiastic consent. However, there are more intense dynamics that require lengthy communication. Such communication cannot be had without a language to express complex emotional states and exchanges. While experience doesn’t make someone more “valuable” in a general sense, experience is a pre-requisite for these more extreme dynamics. Without this language and level of communication dynamics like TPE can become coercive and abusive.

It’s not any one particular dynamic that I’m seeking. There is a broad fabric of interwoven dynamics that I’m open to. For me, the dynamic I have with a partner arises organically. It begins with a strong interpersonal foundation. I feel we have to know each other first. As our familiarity grows we’ll begin building channels of communication which will become the threads of power exchange. As these channels become more explicit a structure for the dynamic will take shape. Values will become clear and solidify. Those values will form the basis of the dynamic.

Some things you should know about me: I like intellectual conversations, cooking, watching TV and movies, listening to audio books, writing, and creating. I am incredibly affectionate and physically driven. I am HSV 2 (that I am medicated for). I am very empathic as well as very sadistic. Those two things are intertwined for me. My empathy informs my sadism. I don’t believe punishment is useful or appropriate in 98% of situations. More often than not the resolution is talking, adjusting expectation, or clarifying abilities. In the 2% of situations where punishment is useful and appropriate I feel that the punishment must be tailored to the desired outcome. I believe that being a healthy individual and even more so a healthy Dominant means that I must be vulnerable and open to my partner. I have treated and managed ADHD. I am a very understanding person and I do my best to educate and better myself. I value that in a partner as well.

Despite being open to different dynamics I do have some deal breakers. Experience requires time and for that reason I’m looking for someone 30 years of age. Physical touch is a requirement so while I’m ok with getting to know someone online for a bit it would need to transition to in person dates and eventually to cohabitation. The relationship must include a romantic component. I’m looking for a lifetime anchor (primary) relationship. However, you are welcome to have other partners. Politics are an important issue for me. I need to be with someone who generally shares my values. So left leaning politics are a must. I am interested in legal and financial entanglements (marriage), but I am not at all interested in children. I’m willing and capable of supporting a partner with mental health issues, but you must be working on them (in therapy and/or with meds). I am also therapy.

While I completely respect women’s need for safety and privacy I do need someone who is open to verification early on (not necessarily right away). I prefer chat over messages. Please feel free to reach out if you feel we might be a match.