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32 [F4A] #Northeastern USA - Enthusiastic sub looking for a serious Dom/mme who can keep up with her
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contrarily_yours is a female age 32 looking for anyone in Northeastern
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Do you like talking about a wide range of topics? Do you have opinions about the world that involve more than a grunt or an eye roll? Would you enjoy verbally sparring with your sub before asserting your dominance? If so, read on!
I'm a pansexual public health/data professional looking for a serious D/s relationship. I know it'll probably take a few conversations to really feel things out, so no harm no foul if you reach out and it becomes apparent we aren't compatible. I certainly wouldn't say no to friends if that's what ends up happening!
I love to learn things. In fact, my best friend has said I could employ at least two full-time librarians with the number of questions and tangents and information rabbit holes I soliloquize in our DMs. My mind needs to be doing something at all times or else.
But that's where you come in. Ideally you're the type of person who enjoys in-depth conversation, and maybe even mixing kink in there since nothing is more fun than trying to do one thing normally while also following other rules. You'd get bonus points for being a professional in your field, because my competence kink is so large that I'm gently bullied about it in the group chat at every opportunity. I don't mean to imply you need fancy degrees to impress me; it's that sweet spot of knowledge and interest that gets me. You'd be secure enough in your dominance to know when I'm following a curious thought tangent versus trying to disobey an order, and also enjoy the process of taking someone who can be a bit stubborn and skittish under your control.
I'm extremely passionate about my work and would ideally submit to someone who's also passionate, ambitious, and/or engaged with the world. That doesn't mean you need to volunteer at a new place every week or lobby for causes that benefit humanity (if you do, though, extra points), but I'm so tired of the general apathy I've encountered. What gets you out of bed in the morning? What could you give a lecture on? (No, really, I love learning from people, please tell me all the nitpicky details about your work or passion projects).
But that's the thing. My mind is so active all the time that it sounds so nice to able to give up control to someone I trust, to have that energy redirected and put to (sexier) use. I'm probably closer to a brat than anything else (minus the age-play implications, just not my thing), but not for its own sake. I truly do love pleasing people and love the idea of being taught over time how best to serve my Dom. It's satisfying to be put in my place when it's not 'just because' and instead documented by clear transgressions. I'm definitely into the mental domination aspect of the dynamic, someone who comes to know my patterns and motivators and use them for mutual benefit.
I'd prefer to discuss specific kinks privately, but overall I love general D/s power dynamics, orgasm control, tasks, wardrobe control (with limits to be discussed), and games or bets with sexual stakes.
There are a few things like impact play and humiliation that sound interesting to me but would need to be done the right way to be appealing, so basically if you think you can handle my energy but don't see a specific kink of yours, reach out and we can talk about it.
Remote toy play is something else that's on the table. Another ad inspired me when I was lurking and I managed to grab a half-off Lovense Nora that I'm hoping will get plenty of use. Also, while we're here, if you finish reading this and want to message or chat, please tell me what kind of creature real or imagined you'd enjoy having as a mind-linked companion and what kinds of hi-jinks you'd get up to with them.
My hard limits include scat, watersports, vomit, and age play. I'm very big on communicating, so you can be sure if something comes up that's suddenly not okay, I'd bring it up and I'd expect my partner to do the same. I'm not generally into people over a decade older than me or more than a few years younger, but don't let that stop you if you think you fit the bill; I've been pleasantly surprised before.
Also, I'm in the northeast, but even if you're close, I'd rather keep things online until trust is established and kept for a while. If we move to something IRL, I'd ask that we get tested together before any in-person scenes if they'd involve fluids or genital contact (I sure do work with STI data and hoo boy). I'm independent, own my own condo without roommates, contribute to a retirement fund, etc., and I'd like someone at a similar stage of life.
I have a very tight-knit queer found family and my closest friends are trans women, so if you're transphobic this won't work. If we end up becoming something longer term and you're interested, though, I'm almost positive they'd love to pass messages to you through me or chat directly. I may have, ah, played a role in some of their own vaguely D/s relationships re: letting their partners know when they've done things they shouldn't, so I have a feeling they'd be more than happy for a little revenge.
We can exchange no-face photos once we've spoken a little bit for the whole 'I'm not a bot' song and dance. I'm a very private person generally, and wouldn't consider sending pictures or video with my face until trust has been established. I think I have a burgeoning exhibitionism thing going on though, so as long as my face isn't visible, we can negotiate sending photos down the shorter term line.
Phew. I prefer to be thorough where possible, so this is longer than some other ads, but thanks for reading if you made it this far. I hope you find what you're looking for!

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