Hey there! I've heard it said that the best personal add only really needs to attract one person: the right person. So here's hoping you're out there and that you take a few minutes to read this.

I'm looking for a full blown in person monogamous relationship. I don't just want a play partner or someone I can only meet up with online. That means hopefully finding someone I can build a life with long term.

It's a bit of a long read so here's a little music to set the mood.

About me

I'm a 35 year old American straight male dom. I know there are a lot of us out here, but trust me it gets better. I work as a computer programmer on distributed applications. I busted my ass all though my 20s working at tech startups so that now I can have the means to work only part time on projects I am interested in and spend more of my time traveling and pursuing my interests outside of work. I enjoy reading, cooking, lots of different music, hiking, playing badminton and ttrpgs. I like regular Oreos better than double stuffed. I know it's crazy but I just gotta put that out there. My favorite way to unwind after a stressful week is to get stoned and read fantasy novels. I love watching and talking about movies. My favorite date night is cooking dinner together and cuddling up to watch a good movie (or sometimes a bad movie can be just as fun). This could be us, but you're not two robots that I built with those special parts.

I love to travel whether that means drinking piña coladas on a beach at a fancy resort, getting lost in a foreign city looking for street food, spending all day at a great museum, or waking up in a tent at the foot of a mountain miles away from the nearest civilization. I've lived in several cities in the US and a few places abroad, and I've loved them all!

Some of my bucket list items:

• See a Blue Whale
• Take a stunt driving course
• Become fluent in Mandarin (I know enough now that I can order food and get around)
• Camp out under the northern lights

"But wait" I hear you object "this all seems pretty vanilla so far. What are you doing posting this in a bdsm forum?" Don't worry I was just getting to that. So for the kinky and the curious: I like having passionate rough sex (choking, pulling hair, slapping , spanking, throwing you around, and so on). I love seeing my partner tied up and helpless beneath me. I enjoy bondage, free use, deep-throating, begging, controlling your orgasms (edging, denial, forcing you to cum), sensory play, body writing, and some discrete public play (hidden toys, making you take off your panties under the table, code-word instructions, things like that). I like being in control. I love to play with the psychological aspects of a D/s dynamic; fining out what turns you on, which punishments you enjoy, which ones you hate, and how to use that knowledge to get you deeper under my control. I want to turn you on, to make you want me so much it hurts, and sometimes hurt you so much you want me. I enjoy all the toys, apparatus, and devices, but you'd be amazed at what I can do with nothing more than a belt and a blindfold. I also like to switch on occasion, but I don't consider that a requirement.

I'm not interested in play involving diapers, urine, feces, blood, or anything overly filthy. I'm not into doing anything that will cause permanent injuries or long lasting marks. I'm not interested in any scenes or scenarios that involve sharing my sub with other men.

I'm what you might call a loving dom. Nothing is more of a turn-on for me than being with someone who's greatest desire is to please me. A good sub will earn my respect and adoration. I will cherish her as my most prized possession and do my best to take care of her and use her every day. I am pretty laid back, but I can get serious when I need to be. I'm not a dom that is extremely aggressive or will ignore you and treat you like shit (maybe now and then if you like), so if that's the kind of thing you want on a regular basis we probably won't be a great fit.

About you

Are you the girl I've been looking for?

Well you've read this far and are still interested so that's a pretty good sign. Some things that might mean we would be a good fit:

• You are intelligent and creative. You have at least one creative hobby (drawing, writing, baking, playing an instrument, whatever). I don't care how good you are, just that you enjoy it and keep practicing.
• You want nothing more than pleasing your partner and bringing value to his life, earning his praise and love every day.
• You are 21-35 years old.
• You believe that being submissive is not the same thing as being passive. A dynamic is something that the two of us will build by working together.
• You like to cuddle up and watch movies.
• You like to go out and try new restaurants. Everything from fancy Micheline stared dining to a grease stained hole in the wall.
• You do not feel the need to compulsively photograph every meal you eat and post it on social media.
• You love to travel and try new things.
• This is you and This is how you want to spend your evenings.

It's not much fun talking about the negative stuff, but I don't want to waste anyone's time here so these are my deal-breakers. If any of these apply to you then we aren't going to be able have a good relationship together.

• You are vegetarian or vegan. Cooking and traveling are important to me and both pursuits are severely limited by a vegetarian diet. (If you are seafood only we can talk).
• You have kids.
• You are or want to be poly-amorous. I'm just not that good at sharing.

Boring logistical stuff

I am open to meeting someone from just about anywhere. I currently work remotely and I'm a bit of a nomad. It's pretty easy for me to travel to a new city for a few weeks or months so I'm happy to go wherever to meet someone interesting. I'm not looking to rush into anything too fast, but I also don't want to waste a bunch of time once we've made a connection so we can talk and see if there's a spark then we can plan on meeting in person as soon as is reasonable to find out if we have good chemistry in person. I could be happy continuing to travel and be a nomad or I could settle down in a more permanent situation if I find the right place for me. I can help you relocate if that's what we decide to do together.

My ideal dynamic is something akin to having a 1950s style housewife, someone I can own, and cherish, and use every day. I currently think that I don't want to have children, but it's not impossible that I would change my mind if I find the right partner and we both really want it. I would love a stay at home wife/homemaker or maybe even a slave, but I'm not against you having a career and hobbies outside of our relationship so long as we come first. I'm open to very obedient good girls as well as more bratty subs. Obviously the type of relationship we have will depend on what the two of us want and agree to once we decide to give things a try. I'm happy to support a lifestyle of traveling and trying new things together if I can find the right person to spend my life with.

If you are interested send me a message and we can trade pictures and get to know each other. I travel often so sometimes there can be a bit of a delay before I respond. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!

Here are just a few of the many places I would love to travel to meet a special someone. This is by no means an exhaustive list. If you are not in one of these locations I would still be happy to hear from you! Texas, Austin, DFW, Washington, Seattle, Portland, California, NYC, Canada, Vancouver, Toronto, Chicago, DMV, Kansas City, Europe, France, Paris, Prague, Italy, Spain, Barcelona, UK, China, Shanghai, Thailand, Bangkok, Japan, Tokyo, Kyoto