It's been a long time since my first post here, but I have not yet found the dynamic I have been looking for. So it's time again to try r/BDSMPersonals again and continue the search to my ideal dynamic.

What am I looking for: In the end, I am looking for in person, but I am totally fine with starting it online and moving it in person later once we get more comfortable. I have experience with being a dom online, but in person there is a lot of things I have been unable to try so far. So it's hard for me to truly know what I want. But both more friends with benefits or a full dynamic, both are appealing options to me. For me, the most important thing in a dynamic is that a sub can feel comfortable and do things they feel comfortable with. If they desire long term control (24/7 and intertwined in daily life) I am interested in that, but I am also interested in keeping it simply limited to sessions. As I said earlier there is just too much for me, I have been wanting to try and do and my fantasies / desires are all over the place, so I don't know what truly is my ideal vision.

What I am not looking for: I would struggle with non-monogamous stuff, as I think it would just not work well for me.

About me: I'm currently working full time in software development, and I enjoy scuba diving and bouldering in my free time. As well as playing some video games. I became a bit chubby during covid but working hard to fix that now! I'm relatively tall at 1m87cm, and I have medium long, slightly curly dark brown hair. Furthermore, I have no piercings or tattoos. I currently have no photos on my profile, but once we get talking, I have no problem sharing pictures of what I look like. I am just not fully comfortable just posting those online right now.

Some of my wants / preferences in what I am looking for. Keep in mind this is not you must have everything but more some things that work well for me:
- Communicative, I like it when someone can be clear in what they like to dislike. What their dreams and wishes are.
- Willing to share pictures of themselves in due time, I don't even mean these as nudes, but I would like to know what you look like if things get more serious.
- I'm very open to both people knowing what they want and people that are unsure just like me, I think it's just important we can talk about what we want and find something we both enjoy.
- Someone who sees this as more than just sexting, I'm fine with it being very kinky, but I am human, and I have needs / wants outside of kink as well.
- Role play is not my strong suit and if it's something that you need, I don't think I can offer you much.
- Age range roughly in the [18-25] years, it's not an exact range but roughly so far what I have been attracted to. ( obviously being an adult is required)

So with most of that paperwork out of the way, let's talk about some of my kinks:

- 24/7 TPE
- wardrobe control ( controlling what the sub wears)
- anything related to control in general
- impact / pain related ( giving)
- Ropes / restraints ( im hugely interested but I have much to learn here)
- Anal / anal training
- Denial / edging ( giving )
- over stimulation
- (slave) training
- humiliation
- pet play

This is a relatively short list but in short, but I am very kinky with loads of things I do want to try, so there is a good change things not on this list are things I am interested in as well and am totally down for trying.

Some things I am not into:
- group stuff
- bothering non-consenting people with things
- animals

Thank you again for anyone reading this post. I hope it gave some illumination into who I am and what I am looking for. And regardless, I hope that everyone reading this manages to find someone that fits them well.