TLDR: I'm a D looking for S. Read on for further detail.

I spoke to someone briefly, had some chemistry in responses, and then they seem to have ghosted for unpleasant reasons. Rather than deleting my account, I'm going to vent my frustration by mostly aggregating from our conversation to post for the first time.

I’m a 41 year old man in a long-term relationship but haven’t had a chance to really delve into domming someone in a long time. Truthfully, I never had a genuinely established d/s relationship but it was more multiple friends with extremely mean benefits. That’s what I’m looking for now.

Regarding kinks, scat is a hard no and bondage doesn’t really hold a ton of interest for me but I’m open to it. I prefer physically overpowering and emphasizing my ability to do whatever I wanted - regardless of whether you wanted to stop me. I'm open to most kinks as I revel in knowing I'm doing things to my partner they want me to do..

I'm extremely turned on by CNC, slapping, choking, and humiliation. I also have a major slut fetish and enjoy public play or activities when out and about.

I greatly value honesty and look at this similar to a more realistic type of role playing. I’d want to know your accurate physical description and would have interest in pictures and videos if we established trust. It’s extremely unlikely we’ll have a real life encounter but even if it occurred, there’s no relationship possibility beyond this one.

I only have interest in finding one partner and I'd want this to remain exclusively between us. I greatly value privacy and discretion and would fall on a grenade rather than burn someone. Unfortunately I had an instance where that wasn't reciprocated to me, messages weren’t kept private, and it was less than ideal. Not looking for any possibility of a repeat.

I have interest in getting to know my partner well since the friend part of this is genuinely important to me. It also provides more material to work with to make you feel worse so you can cum harder. However, I will not catch relationship-changing feelings and have no interest in making someone feel shitty through catching them - although the idea of some degradation centered around what a stupid whore you are for getting feelings despite that disclaimer holds some appeal.

Regarding hobbies, fitness has been the only consistent one I've had for the last 15 years. Constraints on free time limit others - although I do still try to make time when I can for reading, consuming media, or video games.

I don’t have a lot of call availability, it would be along the lines of once or twice a month. Regular voice notes are very doable.

Due to the previous bad experience, it'll take some time and a lot of trust before I'm comfortable sharing photos of myself. Physically, I'm HWP/on the muscular side. 5'11 210 pounds . I'm spending the rest of the year leaning out since my vanity can only handle bulking for so long. I have black hair with about half gray, brown eyes and skin, and I'm not white. I don't really show my age beyond the gray.

If there's any possible response to my ethnicity or race that would make you lose interest, do not respond to me. Do reach out to me though if you'd like to tell me about yourself, to see if we click in back and forth conversation, or you'd like to hear about what a stupid cunt you are for responding to this post.

Hope to find the person I'm looking for.