I’ve been lurking here quite a while. Probably more than I’d like to admit. However, I’ve come to realize that you have to take a real leap of faith, in order to be successful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. So, as stated above, I’m looking for a Dom who wants to build a solid friendship, romantic partnership, and hopefully, loving dynamic.

For some information about me, I’m a university student who’s about to begin a pretty exciting internship. Academics and finding my footing in my career are both very important to me, so a dynamic would have to compliment that.

As far as hobbies and interests go, I’m learning to sew my own clothes (work in progress, but I’m getting there), I try my best to do pilates or go for a run every few days, and I’m really passionate about volunteer work throughout my university campus and community. I’m the world’s biggest Jane Austen defender, as well. Maybe I’d even let you in on my Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet role play fantasy one day. (Kidding. Sort of.) Also, be prepared for me to talk a bit too much about Taylor Swift. (Hey, I mean, if you’re looking for confirmation that this personal was actually written by a 19 year old woman, that should be it!)

Here’s what I’m envisioning, dynamic-wise. We start talking, at first about purely vanilla topics, like work, school, our lives, passions and all things in between. I want to get to know you on a deeper level, so that we have a solid foundation on which to build a dynamic. I need to be able to call you a close friend before I’m able to call you any honorific. Once we get there, though, I’d love to perform acts of service, create rules together for me to follow, as well as punishments if I step out of line. I’m looking for someone akin to a caregiver, who will create a routine for me, keep me accountable, but still be affectionate and caring. You’d make decisions for me, like what I should wear, how I should do my hair, etc. I definitely have a thing for praise, and so I’d follow your rules and commands as best I could, and respond best to positive reinforcement. At this stage of our relationship, I’m picturing daily, active communication. Hopefully, the friendship, now being explored within the roles of a little one and her Sir, will turn romantic, too. It will take me some time before I’d be comfortable doing anything sexual, but once I am, I picture you controlling my orgasms, too.

As far as qualities I’m looking for in you, I’m primarily looking for someone who’s kind, patient, and a good communicator. I want to be able to feel like we can tell each other anything. I’d also be most compatible with someone who’s passionate about their interests, goals and aspirations. I’d also need your style of domination to be on the soft side. I still want to be put in my place, but not be super heavily degraded or humiliated. I’d work best with someone who punishes, rewards, and praises on the basis of trying to help me be the best sub and person I can be. I’d do everything I can to uplift and honour you, too.

To be upfront, I have limited experience with BDSM. I’ve done some exploring, but nothing in person. I take things incredibly slowly, so, some patience is required here. It might take me weeks before I’m ready to dive into any sort of play. But I can promise I would treat our relationship and hopefully budding dynamic with the utmost care and respect. Maybe one day, after a few months of talking, I’ll be ready to meet up, be intimate, and take a spanking or two. I just have to emphasize the slow pace at which I’ll take this. Hopefully it will all be worth it.

I’m finally ready to explore this part of myself, and I’d love nothing more than to take that journey with a firm, compassionate and caring Dom.