Hello there. This is going to be a long one but nothing is gained without effort.

About me:

I am a 32 year old brown male, 177 cm tall and on my good days 69kgs who is currently operating out of the GMT 5 time zone. I consider myself to be a witty and intelligent man, both emotionally and in the more traditional sense. My sense of humor can be too much at times, but hey at least things won’t be boring huh?

I have been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for around a decade now. BDSM for me is all about trust, the communication that’s required and how the dynamic can help both sides be the best of themselves and help each other improve as both people and partners. As such I highly value communication, maturity and empathy and hence I’m looking for a connection, not just a sexual/power exchange.

My Interests:

I definitely consider myself to be an introvert, however I am definitely a social animal. I always look forward to meeting new people and learning more about the myriad and unique experiences that everyone has had and will have. That is one of my biggest avenues of personal growth, I welcome different perspectives and am always willing to learn and to improve myself through challenging my self beliefs. I love music, not songs, classical and new age, though I do admit I have plenty left to learn and explore on this front. I am a cat dad but love both cats and dogs, I also consider myself to be very good with animals. I'm also an avid reader, my interests in reading ranges from horribly written fantasy, horribly translated Chinese works, to mainstream fantasy, Sci-fi, Psychology and even research papers on topics I’m interested in. I have an insatiable curiosity, I seek knowledge for the sake of knowledge. I’m also very creative and imaginative in almost every aspect of my life, including my kinks.

What I bring to the table:

Empathy, understanding, nurturing, respect. By my very nature I am someone who likes to build people up, and enable them to be the best of themselves. I’m here to be your rock, your support, your cheerleader, someone you can confide in, someone you can trust to always have your back. Of course, to support another sometimes there does need to be structures and accountability in play too, and I’m more than equipped to provide that.

Sounds good so far? Well let’s get to the kinky things.

My D-type needs:

In my dynamics I am a very possessive man. I need my partner, to belong to me. I need to give care, I need to give affection, I need to have control, I need to inflict pain and I need to degrade and humiliate. I need my partner to know that I am theirs, and more importantly, that they are mine.

While my kinks go further than that, those listed above are my general needs.

The D/s relationship itself:

I seek to create a space where my partner knows that they are safe, cared for, loved and wanted and at the same time that they are mine. I’m highly monogamous and expect my partners to be the same. I will be gentle, but firm, respectful yet Dominant. All of this of course is built on clear communication, consent and understanding. As such I do not advocate to start a dynamic till I’ve at least gotten to know the person first, it can be slow, but when it works it works just right. Of course, the possessiveness itself is something that needs to be communicated about properly, proper boundaries set. Each dynamic with each person is different, hence I’m looking to create something that is uniquely ours.

I’m aware that there are contradictions to what I said and what my needs are, that’s me. I am a contradictory person. Someone once told me that contradictions are a sign of intelligence, clearly, they didn’t know me long enough!

Who am I looking for?

What is most important for me is that the person I connect with is willing to communicate, is empathetic, understanding and is willing to put in the effort to make this relationship work. That would be facilitated by having our kinks align, but is not a deal breaker for me as long as my limits aren’t tested. I also value wit and intelligence highly, emotional intelligence is also sexy af. Physical appearance wise my only requirement is properly managed weight, even if it isn’t as long as its your goal to work towards that we will be compatible.

On to said limits:

Age play, Scat, pee, blood, ABDL.

Theres plenty more I would like to add but this post has gotten pretty big already, and with the poison that is social media ruining our collective attention span, making it longer doesn’t seem like a wise idea. Instead, if what you’ve read so far interests you, please do be sure to message me, I like to consider myself an open book but to go through that book you’re going to need time and an initial connection.

If you are looking to message me, please start off with what is important about BDSM for you and then what you are looking for in such a relationship. Let’s make things work!

Provided here is my kinklist, and you can check out my bdsmtest on my profile.

I sincerely wish all the best to you in your search, thank you for taking your time to read this. Stay safe and stay kinky.