54 (M4F) #online versatile Dom looking for casual online fun and connection

Looking for someone who wants to enjoy some on-line, mutually enjoyable play. I'm not really looking for mindless, disconnected kink. I'd like to get to know a person, understand their needs and wants and see how our kinks may line up. This will likely take some time so if you just want someone to dominate you today, I may not be a good fit.

I'm smart, kind, darkly funny, well-educated, emotionally stable and mature. You can be any age, but I'm not looking for high drama, just some intelligent, kinky fun. I love words and writing. If you're mostly into abbreviations and grunts, I'm not the right guy (though I know there is a time when language fails and more primal sounds are best).

In general, I like reading sci-fi/fantasy, psychology & philosophy, board games, hiking, travel, progressive politics, and interesting food. I'm a strong feminist and see no conflict with intense kink play. I love playing with and breaking taboos (within agreed limits, of course).

Once I know someone a bit, I'm into humiliation/degradation, orgasm control/edging, begging, dirty talk, and other bits of kinky indulgence--all with appropriate aftercare.

I tend to be kind of all over as a Dom. I can be fairly strict, but I also am pretty playful. I've enjoyed DD/lg in the past and love being sweet and gentle sometimes too. I love brats provided they are willing to be tamed and not just be oppositional all the time. I don't mind exerting some power, but this is a two-way street and you need to want to submit.

I don't take myself too seriously as a Dom. If you want an always-in-control, leather-pants wearing hardass, that's not me.

When in person, I enjoy impact play, bondage/shibari, primal and rough play. I accept on-line comes with some limits.

I'm pretty open and like trying new things. Just because I'm a Dom doesn't mean I have to come up with every single idea for play--if there is something you want or fantasy you want to try, speak up.

I am very open to and enjoy helping a sub grow as a person and be healthy. I have worked with other subs on positive habit formation and general mental health. I don't want to be your therapist, but I will happily praise you and encourage you to make good life choices--and enforce some consequences if you consent.

Even a casual kink relationship is a relationship and needs to be mutually beneficial.

So if you want to get to know each other a little bit and see if we can have some fun together, get in touch.

Just to be clear, I'm big on things being safe, sane, and consensual. I'll say and do some intense stuff, but it always has to be within healthy, mutually agreed limits. I'm always open to stepping outside the dynamic to talk as equals. I'm happy to fantasise about and play with some intense stuff, but I draw the line at anything that would cause either of us real lasting physical, emotional, or psychological harm. 

Married, polyamorous/ENM. Not currently looking for a LTR, but that might change if I found the right person. I'm UK-based so UK/EU IRL could be a thing eventually. I want to be be available and involved with the right person, but I have a job, marriage, family, friends, etc. If you want someone available 24/7 to give meaning to your life, I'm not the right person. I also want nothing to do with money. I will never ask for any, ever. If we're in even a casual relationship, I may get you a gift on occasion, but I am not interested in financing someone's life.

Privacy is important to me so I won't be rushing to ask for pics or offer or ask for personal info too soon.

If you've gotten this far then l thank you for reading. Send me a DM and we can see where it goes.