Hello to all,

My name is Nick, and I'm hoping to find the right person to experience what is in my opinion, the best kind of relationship two people can share.

So who am I? I'm a single father to two wonderful kids. I work full time, I enjoy reading books of the fantasy genre, I've become quite the cook over the years, and you will often find me in the kitchen singing poorly to a variety of music while I cook or clean. I have a pretty average/standard build, with long brown hair and full beard, both already beginning to go white in places. Beyond all of that there is a side to me that very very few people know about. A deeply rooted desire for the world of dominance and submission. For as long as I can remember, even before I had labels for it, I have craved it.

So what's my style? I tend to lean more gentle Dom. I much prefer praising over causing pain, and would rather use humiliating or embarrassing tasks as reinforcement. I also think nobody is set in stone though, there is a time and a place for most things, even the ones I don't prefer to use as often. The one absolute thing I am not is a brat tamer. That's a special skill I do not possess. I don't mind playfulness at all but in my time with this over the years I find constant brattiness to be exhausting and actually takes away from the bond I'm going for. Not yucking anybody's yum, I'm just not for you if that's what you enjoy. And that's ok, we're all different 🙂

I mentioned years, so what does my experience look like? I will always be completely honest with whoever I'm engaging with and here is no exception. I have never had a sub in real life. I've had a couple partners that I've tried a handful of things with, but ultimately they weren't as into it as I am. So those were just occasional one night things when the mood was right. What I lack in real world experience I make up for with copious amounts of research and reading. Since I discovered things were on the Internet I have been reading about bdsm and D/s dynamics. Blogs, articles, people's posts on the reddit communities. I've been part of a handful of discord and other various groups which taught me a ton. And I've dabbled in purely online arrangements, but those never seemed to last. And I'll admit, they never quite fully satiated what I'm after.

So what AM I after? I want the real deal. A full blown relationship with this sort of dynamic very involved. So it is really important to me that we are close enough to eventually meet in the real world and take this to the next step. That said I'm well aware how slowly this needs to go, I want it to actually. We will start out by just taking online. No pressure, no strings, just get to know one another. How do we vibe as people? Do our views of this world align? Are we attracted to one another? How easy is it to just open up our full self to the other? The fun bits will come naturally and easily in time, I'm not worried about that part. The foundation of all of this is really important to me. The absolute trust I've read people talking about so often that comes from this simple yet complex power exchange. That's what's important, that's the real gist of it all for me.

You may have noticed no real specific requirements for who I'm looking for other than a workable location. That's because I don't have any. I find a wide range of women attractive, and age is not important to me whatsoever. What matters most is how well we mesh. And if this post resonates with you at all, that's a pretty damn good starting point in my opinion. So don't be shy, send me a message and we'll see where it leads. It could be the beginning of something truly amazing 🙂 all I ask is that you put at least a bit of effort into your reply and introduce yourself as best you can.

I wish everyone the best of luck in all their endeavors! Thanks for reading!