I know this is long, but I'm a complex being (and also I don't know how to shut up lol). Please read the whole post before messaging me!

I expand on this below, but I'm also putting it here for anyone who might just skim the post and miss it: I'm NOT interested in talking to cishets, conservatives, or Christians. Thanks 💕

Anyway, hi! I'm Winnie (or Winter). I'm queer and genderqueer--AFAB if it matters--and my pronouns are they/she. I'm currently in western-central PA (in a very small town, so I'll be more specific if we start talking!) but I'm planning on moving to Columbus, OH before the end of this year.

I'm polyamorous and I live with my queerplatonic partner for stability and support, but I date solo.

I'm hoping to meet people in the 23-40 age range. Definitely no one under 23, as that's a big boundary for me. Preferably in a similar timezone, but that's not necessarily a dealbreaker! I'm primarily queer4queer in my dating life, which means I typically only date other people who identity as queer in some way. Beyond not being cishet, I really don't care too much about what you look like or your gender/sexuality or etc. If there's a connection, then I'm down for a relationship! However, please note that I'm a strong leftist and I'm agnostic with religious trauma, so I am 100% not interested in talking to conservatives or Christians.

I'm plus-size (and I often used the word fat as a neutral descriptor for myself) and I'm trying to be unapologetic about it. I'm also neurodivergent, and I'm disabled/chronically ill--which means I sometimes face barriers and limitations in what I can do. But I always put 100% effort into everything.

I've been abandoned by two doms in as many years and so I'm sort of wary moving forward, but I'm still trying to be hopeful and I'm looking to meet someone dominant--preferably a daddy dom or mommy domme. I like to make it clear up front that I'm something along the lines of demisexual, so I'm looking to develop a relationship that has kink dynamic--not just the kink dynamic itself. But I'm more than willing to openly discuss sex and kink early on, because it's important to make sure we'd be compatible.

Anyway--I'm fairly kinky in theory, but still a bit inexperienced in physical practice. Definitely not new though; I've been involved in online kink communities for years, and I've had long-distance dynamics and a few kinky friendships where I've been able to learn a lot about what I like and don't like, but I haven't really had a partner in person to explore that with. I'm mostly submissive. A quick rundown of my kinks would be light bondage, light choking, spanking, praise and degradation, cockwarming, exhibitionism and voyeurism, group sex, DDLG/MDLG (age play does have a sexual aspect for me!), double/triple penetration, somno, cnc, public sex (within reason). I'm not a brat, but I can be a bit of a princess--though mostly I just wanna be someone's good girl. Any of this could be on or off the table; I'm not necessarily looking for someone to fulfill every single of of my kinks if we do have a kinky relationship. I'm also open to other things depending on what my potential partner would be into, but I do have some hard limits like scat/vomit, generally illegal stuff, etc, and I usually like to make it known that I'm not a masochist (obviously with some of my kinks I like a little pain lol--but nothing extreme, so I probably wouldn't do well with a sadist).

It would be nice to have someone who can fill the role of being dominant for me not only sexually, but also... somewhat incorporating it into lifestyle as well. I definitely do not need TPE, nor am I interested in that; but it would be nice to have some rules and structure in my life where I have none 😂 Full disclosure that I'm a survivor of CSA--I've had lots of therapy, but I do need us to establish trust and connection before we get to sex.

So anyway, it would be nice to meet polyam people who are interested in relationships that are both romantic sexual. I do have a lot of trauma from multiple abusive relationships in my past, but I've spent a lot of time on my own (and in therapy) working through that.

I would love to talk and get to know each other first, and establish if we'd be interested in each other/compatible/etc. If I haven't scared you away yet, DM me a bit about yourself and please include your favorite TV show someone in your message (helps me to know you've read the whole post!) ❤️