Hey! This is a long one but worth reading.

Very Short Version: I’m an experienced, artistic, active, Los Angeles-based Dom looking for a local femme afab sub (she’s and they’s are welcome!) who is excited about their life, has a wonderful world of people and passions around them, and is looking for the same — plus a heavy dose of intense and intimate kink.

About Me

Physically - I'm 28, single, white, green eyes behind cute glasses, curly brown hair, active/athletic (6’3”/~180 lbs), fully vaccinated (COVID and STIs), non-smoker, clean/DDF. I test regularly and am on PrEP as a precaution. Happy to verify each other with photos early on.

Personality - I'm a mixture of nerdy goofiness, emotional passion, intimate support, confident openness, and spicy playfulness. I've been described as earnest, caring, supportive, devoted, communicative, honest, brave, emotionally intelligent, super smart, mature, funny, curious, easy to talk to, a great listener, driven, resilient, open-minded, and so on. My love languages are mostly quality time, (especially) physical touch, and words of affirmation. Happily in therapy and taking care of my mental health.

Interests - Pretty social and extroverted, but also happy to do my own thing. I've got a wide range of interests, including: TV/film (I get all weepy easily — cue the emotional music), camping (I like to get naked and fuck in nature, what can I say), music (singer songwriters, looking at you Phoebe Bridgers), art (I enjoy speed-running galleries and museums), board games (the in person kind, like Catan or D&D), reading (from fantasy novels to artsy memoirs), mental health, cooking (I make a great ribeye), politics (I tend to lean left), writing (professionally and personally), and parties where you can have interesting, deep conversations with people you just met. I can sometimes be shy in larger gatherings, but lately that’s been changing for the better. Hopefully we share a few of the above interests already. I like trying new things, too.

Daily life - I try to see friends and/or watch a classic movie almost every day. I have a budding film and TV career that I'm passionate about, but I have my side hustle too — freelance writing for higher ed and non-profits. I live in my own place (no roommates) in Los Feliz with a great view of downtown. I consider D/s to be an important part of my sexuality, and I’d like to explore it romantically with a sub. I will always make time for my partner and expect the same in return — but I also value your/my independence. Let’s bring our different worlds together.

Who and what I'm looking for

Kinky, intimate power couple: Submission and D/s are not incompatible with having strong independence in life and career. I'm looking for someone who considers themself passionate/driven/ambitious (whatever that means for you) - but is also a highly sexual slutty kinkster like me. Someone who longs for a trusted partner who will challenge them, and support their goals and celebrate their success in life through the care, safety, structure, pleasure, discipline of a loving relationship with a D/s presence in the bedroom and lightly outside of it. Let’s open up to one another and become our best selves together.

My ideal partner has similar qualities to me: she loves to explore/learn/try new things, she's active/takes care of her physical mental health, she has goals, she is communicative, empathetic, kind, loyal, earnest, kinky, emotionally available, not looking for a "sugar daddy", and serious about finding a Dom partner. She’s got her own world that she’s excited to share with mine.

My dealbreakers in a partner are recreational drug dependency, overweight, (untreated) mental illness, not vaccinated, not pro-choice/not interested in birth control, any STIs/STDs, lacking in strong interpersonal friendships and/or family relationships.

Location - Los Angeles area. I am not looking for an LDR or to relocate.

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The kinky stuff

Experience - I’ve been active in BDSM almost immediately after becoming sexually active in college. Whether you are early in your kinky journey or not, I'm excited to explore together. In that time, I've had D/s sexual relationships to different degrees (from bedroom-only play to kinky sex parties and discreet public play) which have led me to focus on what I’m looking for. Happy to answer any questions. If you're curious and inquisitive, we're off to a great start.

D/s dynamic - I would want to be your lover, sadist, friend, master, and companion. I’m sweet, supportive, respectful of boundaries and desires. I enjoy your pleasure as much as my own. When I enter Dom mode, a switch turns me from cuddly nerd to primal sex-fiend — followed by excellent aftercare. I give great orgasms and great hugs. I really value communication around everything, but especially sex and preferences. Clarity and safety balanced with spontaneity and challenge. My partner is a priority for me, just as I want to be for her. I value closeness and shared experiences. I'm also interested in exploring D/s structure and rules beyond the bedroom. Every sub I’ve played with is their own person, so this will be tailored to our personal dynamic. Safe (including mentally), sane (we have careers and vanilla lives), and enthusiastically consensual. I love discussing kinks and past experiences that you’ve enjoyed or ones you fantasize about.

My hard limits - Scat, blood, extreme CNC, polyamory (see note).

My kinks - Include impact play, pain play, throatfucking, watersports, anal play, bondage, (safe) breath play, orgasm control/edging, some humiliation/degradation, praise, service, training/tasks/protocols, group sex, DP (toys and/or penises), fisting, (discreet) outdoors/public, kissing, fingering, squirting, giving/receiving oral, and more. You do not have to enjoy all of these — let me know which you like and more, and I’m sure I’ve missed a few more of my own. It’s a long list!

A note on polyamory: I am highly sexual. I am bisexual. I love a good queer sex party and swinging. Happy to see my partner pleasure and be pleasured in a group. However, I am not polyamorous. I want one romantic and intimate life partner. I’ve tried polyamory, and it wasn’t for me.

Thanks for reading.

DM me if it resonated with what you’re looking for. We can chat on Reddit and if we vibe, get a coffee or cocktail and chat more. Not looking to rush -- let's get to know each other.