Summary: submissive switch looking for connection in Portland, Oregon and/or Washington (PNW). Interested in a woman for casual dating, kink play, kink events to eventual relationship. Below are further details about me and the dynamic Im interested in. Bonus points if you attend 50 Shades of STFU.

• Who Am I?

  • Ichiban
  • 35 years
  • 145lbs
  • Athletically Fit
  • Full Time Employee
  • Single
  • No Children
  • One Bedroom Apt
  • Car owner

• My Ideal Relationship -

  • Monogamous,
    • Why? - I want to feel valued by my partner. That what I provide as a friend/partner/lover/supporter/submissive is enough to satisfy you. I can bring the best of myself when my energy is only for you. Additionally, I admire the same qualities in my partner but as the dominant one in our relationship. Your friendship/love/leadership/authority/discipline is enough for me to be the best man for both of us.
  • Female Led
    • Why? - In my experience I’ve had the most success in both romantic relationships and professional settings when a woman was in charge and I followed her lead. This dynamic has benefited both parties by helping us rediscover ourselves, gain new perspectives and excel in other areas of life. Furthermore, I am a leader too. I can lead myself and I currently lead others within my job. Yet, romantically, I continue to believe I will be the most fulfilled in life in a Female Led Relationship.

  • Role Reversal

    • I am interested in exploring a Matriarchal lifestyle. I am aroused at the idea of fulfilling the role stereotypically reserved for a woman in a Patriarchal setting while still maintaining my masculinity.
    • Why? - I am influenced by my upbringing and various media. I am the only male child with two older sisters who grew up in a christian household that was very Patriarchal. I respect my father for being able to provide for his family but he was also the disciplinarian. I love my mother because she took care of all of us but also empathize for her as she just about submitted to my father every need. Because I see the quality of service both my parents brought to the family I seem to admire experiencing this dynamic in my relationship but reversed. In regards to media, I most recently saw the latest Dungeons and Dragons movie. Hilarious! There was quite a few examples of role reversal that I won’t spoil. Arcane on Netflix also had an example of role reversal I really liked.

• What I Have to Offer -

  • Low key and drama free.
    • As mentioned I was raised in a christian household and although I find myself more spiritual rather than religious, I still maintain those core values I was raised on; Mainly the ten commandments. Additionally, I’m influenced by the wonderful books I’ve read throughout my life such as - “Dare to Lead” by Brene Brown, “The Game of Life and How to Play It” by Florence Scovel Shinn, “You’re Not Listening - What You’re Missing and Why It Matters” by Kate Murphy and “Truth” by Susan Batson. As I typed them out I realize these are all female authors lol.
  • Love Language
    • My love language is acts of service. The reason I excel in my career is because its service oriented. The job allows me to show up and be my best self to help others. I’m punctual, cooperate greatly with peers, I can complete tasks on time all while maintaining an upbeat attitude. I know how to have fun while still getting the job done. Honestly, when I enjoy the job I’m doing, besides the money I’m getting paid, it is rewarding to accomplish task, receiving praise and seeing others succeed. I will bring that same energy to our relationship.
  • Eye Candy
    • I am a handsome man who only continues to improve as I grow older and develop healthier habits. I’m open to exchanging SFW photos so you can be the judge for yourself. Not only do I look good but I make for great company with family, friends and events. I make friends easily and thanks to studying theater and being comfortable in just about any social setting I can adapt to the energy of the room. With your guidance and perhaps fashion sense I believe I could elevate your world.

• My Experience Level -

  • Two years in kink community
    • After a relationship ended where I was introduced into BDSM by my partner I looked into exploring the lifestyle further. During our time together she had expanded upon her interest of 50 Shades of Grey but she liked to be Christian and I, Anna, metaphorically. Coincidently, In my journey I began attending 50 Shades of STFU, a Femdom event in Portland, where I was able to be educated, rediscover myself and meet members of the kink community.
  • Demo Bottom for Femdom bootcamp
    • Thanks to networking Ive been able to offer myself as a Demo Bottom for a few Femdom Bootcamps that helps novice Fem Tops explore their kinks. This has helped me continue to express my love language of acts of service by offering my body for safe and consentual play. Furthermore, It has helped me become more comfortable in my skin.

• Kinks

  • Negotiating, domestic service, human furniture, affectionate domination, Clothed Female/Naked Male, leash and collar, foot worship, body worship, pussy/ass eating, spanking, orgasm control, strapon worship, pegging, butt plug, chastity, hand holding, lingerie, corner time, domestic discipline, crying, rewards, praise, objectification, pinching, predator/prey, panties, aftercare, safe words
  • Limits: wax, blood, scat, piss, needles, forced bisexuality, findom