About Me: I am a 32 year old Male Dominant. I am white, 6'3”, lean with short brown hair and brown eyes. I wear glasses. I'm on the handsome side of nerdy. I have 10 years experience on and off with the lifestyle and various aspects of BDSM. My experience includes (but is not limited to): Orgasm denial, bondage, light CnC, choking, daily tasks, training, erotic hypnosis, humiliation, pet play, and impact play.

In Vanilla life I enjoy a happy medium of indoor and outdoor activities. I enjoy hiking, biking, and going for short camping trips (or travel in general) as well as staying in for a nice movie night on the couch, board games or video games. More of my personal hobbies are wood working and writing.

I adapt my Dominant style to fit the dynamic my sub craves. That being said, as a baseline I fall under the Caregiver type. I enjoy supporting and guiding my submissive and helping them grow. However, I do not engage in Ageplay (see limits below) and I will not be called Daddy.

My primary kinks are: light exhibitionism (nothing that gets us arrested, but I enjoy encouraging my sub to be daring in more private situations, like flashing behind a wall or stripping while on a hike), wardrobe control (specifically when my sub is with me as opposed to all the time), and skin on skin contact (naked cuddling, in general, is a big, non-penetrative kink for me). More recently I have been interested in manhandling. Something about picking up my sub and using her body while she is helpless in my arms has a big appeal for me.

Limits: This is not a comprehensive list but these are the hard limits that I can currently think of. I will not engage in: anything illegal that will get us arrested, blood play, vomit play, scat, permanent scarring, impact play that leaves a lot of brusing, Ageplay, diapers, race place, or being called “Daddy.”

What I am Looking For: BDSM for me is less about the physical aspect and more about the mental aspect/power dynamic. Sometimes this is called a Soft Dom, but this doesn't mean I can't or won't be strict. What it means is I get more enjoyment out of the mental game, of drawing out my submissive's inner desires and convincing them to indulge than I do over typical kink play. I am flexible in what dynamic we build, from more regular dating with BDSM behind closed doors, to a more open dynamic where you will be walking around the house in a collar and leather harness when I have guests over (assuming they consent beforehand, of course).

I like to have more of a connection with my submissive that reaches beyond just our play. I like someone just a little needy, I don't mind texting throughout the day and nothing turns me on more than my submissive letting me know their desire for me, sexual or otherwise. Somewhere between a woman who wants to be held naked in my arms, and tied up and thoroughly used.

I am happy to provide more details and lead the discussion to build a dynamic that fills both of our needs with my future submissive.

Requirements: I do have a few requirements. I'd prefer an age range of 24-30, but my hard age range is 18-38. You must be biologically female (I accept non-binary as long as you are AFAB, no trans). You must be drug and disease free. As I am hoping to indulge in manhandling, you must be between petite to an average body type. A little extra is alright, but no one overweight or BBW. And finally, you must be local to Colorado, preferably within a 3 hour drive of the Denver Metro area (roughly between Colorado Springs to Fort Collins). I have tried longer distance and it just isn't working out.

Are you still interested? If not, thank you for your time and good luck in your search. If so, then I have a task for you. Introductions can be difficult, and I want someone who read my ad, not someone who skimmed and assumed. So, below will be three categories: I am; I desire; and I am wearing. In each category I have a few descriptions. They don't have to fit perfectly, just pick the one closest to how you feel, and you will form three sentences. Don't take them literally, it's meant to be fun like creating a game character. Use this as your first message to me. An example would be: I am [a prisoner]. I desire [to break free]. I am wearing [comfy clothes]. Simple enough? We can find the finer details after we start talking. Be sure to include your age and a brief description of yourself after the three sentences, please.

As a bonus, if you read through the options below and just don't feel they fit you, but are very interested, you may come up with your own descriptions. You'll have to list what your choices mean, and there are bonus points for creativity.

That's it! I look forward to your message.

I am:

-a Prisoner: Maybe by family, maybe by yourself, but you feel trapped. You are suffocated by your lifestyle and you crave something new, something outside the cell you find yourself in.

-a Priestess: You're an innocent. You've been brought up with hopeful beliefs but sheltered from the outside world. You've always had a secret curiosity in the depths of sin, and you just wish you could have a taste of corruption.

-a Warrior: You're strong. Independent. Maybe even a leader. But all of that responsibility is exhausting. Sometimes you just want to lower your guard and let someone else do the fighting.

-an Animal: Wild and untamed, you're a chaotic ball of energy. You're used to doing what you want, when you want, consequences be damned. But sometimes living life constantly on the edge has you longing for a taste of the safety inside a fence.

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I desire:

-to break free: You know you need to make a major change, you just aren't sure you have the strength to do it alone. You want someone to teach you how to break away from your shackles and to feel a new sense of freedom in your life.

-to worship: You love having a purpose, to feel useful, and all the better when there is someone worthy to serve. You want something to devote yourself to, and you want to throw your entire being into it.

-to be conquered: You know you can't just back down. You need a challenge, you need someone to seize the power from you and feel like you owe them a life debt to truly submit.

-to be spoiled: Sometimes loyalty can be bought. It doesn't always mean money. You just want to be pampered. Given massages, put on a pedestal now and then, treated like the prize that you know you are (or want to be), and in exchange you'll give your loyalty.

-to be domesticated: You know that chaos' only real destination is destruction. You grow tired of the overwhelming nature of true freedom, and crave the simplicity of structure. Someone to tell you what to wear, where to go, what to do, so that the limitless choices don't feel so overwhelming.

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I am wearing:

-comfy clothes: Might be baggy, might be tight fitting, but you're wearing whatever you feel comfortable in.

-ceremonial robes: You like a uniform. You like to be pleasing to your audience, and you like the safety in that outfit being given to you.

-damaged armor: You've been in more fights than you can count, and you keep your armor up for that reason. It's dinged, dented, maybe even bloodied, but you wear it proudly until the day you find someone you trust enough to take it off.

-a Collar and a Harness: Contrary to the appearance, you prefer the freedom of wearing practically nothing. You like the connection a leash brings to your master, but the ability to be taken whenever he pleases excites you.