I like to start with a list of potential deal-breakers, so that if any of these are dealbreakers to you, we both save time 👋

• I deviate from gender norms at my own discretion. What you see on my profile is not always what you get.
  • I ID myself as non-binary for simplicity sake but I tend to be right at home among transfems; I use they/any pronouns
  • My anatomy is mostly unmodified for AMAB and it will almost certainly stay that way
  • My voice is relatively deep, and strangers usually gender me as "sir" when I speak
  • My wardrobe and demeanor spans from very fem to somewhat masc, and I do sometimes succeed at confusing people about how they want to gender me
• I generally have a hard time being interested in men, but am willing to hear you out.
• I am mildly autistic, which in my case hinders non-verbal communication, but I overdo explicit communication to compensate. This also makes me more blunt/honest than most people, but I always keep in mind to be considerate.
• I practice ENM: like many others, my needs are too diverse to expect exclusivity
  • I'm completely transparent about who I’m seeing, with anyone I trust enough to play with or date
• I only been sexually active since this year and have limited experience with few partners. I am likely most accurately described as sex-positive grey-ace, despite my kinks. Arousal, intimacy, and orgasm are fun to have, but I tend to be more interested in oral and toy play than vanilla intercourse. In other words kink is the end goal, not a means to spice up sex.
• I may not share face pics until we're already comfortable enough to consider meeting IRL. Feel free to check my profile for my neck-down pics from when I first started playing around with gender. I'm usually happy to share more recent pics as we talk and get more comfortable.

If you made it through the deal-breakers, stay for the dream makers :3

My biggest kinks (these go both ways because I'm pretty switchy, though I usually lean bottom) are:

• bondage - rope or other restraints
• gags - including oral use of dildos or their biological counterpart
• edging / orgasm control, short-term chastity/denial (goes well as discipline for health goals)
• mild-severe pain (clamps or other non-injuring implements like electro) that doesn't cause bruising/scarring
• breath play (very careful about this one though)

My relevant experience includes:

• Studious observation in the local kink community where I went to university, and now in the San Diego community
• Some practical experience with rope, including self-tying, attending classes, practice with a handful of rope partners from the communities, topping and bottoming in a handful of scenes involving rope, and regular rope play with my ex when we were together
• A handful of online-only dynamics mostly surrounding orgasm control/denial (I've been dom, sub, switch, a few times each, for up to several weeks at a time)
• bottoming for sensation, electro, and light impact (not all together) while restrained

Whatever our potential relationship, be it deep or shallow, it will be very important to me to know how you feel about our interactions. I have a reasonable amount of time on my hands that I wish to invest in meaningful friendships/relationships, and I'd appreciate knowing that we're both satisfied with our time investment in one another, or if that can't be the case, I'd like to have an honest conversation to wrap things up so that our time could be better spent elsewhere. My past posts are similar to this and mention other interests of mine, but this is the most relevant and most edited copy. I try to respond to all requests even if I don't think we're a good fit, but please give me something to respond to 😂 Tell me about what you're looking for, what you think we might like to discuss together, or why we haven't already met at a munch (if you're local). If you know or suspect we have met at a munch, feel free to find me directly on fet or discord! Otherwise, reddit chat is open! Bonus points if you open in part with what you’re looking for that I might like, and tell me about yourself 😌