Hi there!

I'm an experienced, discreet, consent oriented, dominant with sometime sadistic leanings, one who revels in that fascinating triangle that features the convergence of D/s, DDlg, and a sprinkling of sadism. I've been in the NYC public scene for 12 years now, and have been a member of TES, on and off, for over half of that time. Physically, I'm of average height, with a slim, wiry frame, green eyes and an English accent. The toy is 31 and a little on the larger side, but has lost 25 lbs with my support. It has enormous udders with sensitive nipples that can be pinched, pulled and abused to its considerably uncomfortable enjoyment.

I enjoy many areas of kinky play - power exchange is my foundation, but I also enjoy a variety of other ingredients to keep things interesting and fresh: from the panoply of impact styles available through electro-play, medical play, and some forms of roleplay (it has to be believable.) However, I think that some of the most fascinating textures and layers come from the subtler forms of mental and emotional play out there - whether it's orgasm control and denial; humiliation, degradation, or objectification; consensual non-consent; or cuck play.

The latter is the reason for this posting. I have a toy. A very eager to please, and accommodating toy that I pull out and make use of from time to time. It gets off on, and benefits from, my skills and predilections in and around the mental and emotional forms of play outlined above, as well as having a fairly wide masochistic streak which I regularly indulge on mental, phsyical, and emotional levels. However, one area which we haven't delved into, but which the toy gets a massive charge from, is the idea of cuck play.

The toy currently has its orgasms rationed and witheld as my whims dictate, and it gets all kinds of turned on, and stimulated by, being teased and denied in that way, because it feels that, once it is allowed to cum (usually half a dozen times or more in one session), the pleasure is heightened and sweetened for being that bit rarer. That can be a lot of fun, and along those lines, the idea of being denied to a much greater degree is fascinating to it. Having to (watch and) listen (perhaps blindfolded) to me play with another... oh yeah, it's going to cum much harder when I whisper those ideas in its ear. Or, perhaps having it sat on an adjacent bar stool or in another booth at a bar while I'm on a date with someone else before sending the toy home to stew and think about what it's missing out on... I don't know that I've come across anyone else that seems to have this particular kink to quite such a degree.

Other ideas we have discussed include:

- it being used as a bearskin rug (making out on top of it, with it forbidden from joining in);

- talking about it, groping it and revving it up before ignoring it and playing independently, leaving it frustrated;

- and, using it as a sex toy - allowing another submissive to grind on its face and mouth and demeaning it in other ways the sub wants to try before cumming over it and then sending it home smelling of sex (no cleaning up before it gets home 90 minutes later).

So, given that I also get a serious charge out of all of these ideas, I've decided it's time to start looking to see whether there is a compatible third out there who might fit into this equation.

I'm envisioning a very specific kind of submissive - I would expect you to be more sub than switch. I'm not interested in someone who wants to take control as I'm a dyed-in-the-wool dominant, and my pleasure comes from orchestrating and observing this kind of thing.

However, if you like the flavor of what I've outlined above, and might enjoy getting one up on the toy, or if you have a desire to follow my instructions and suggestions but sprinkle in your own seasoning on top of this by choosing how you grope, talk about, and generally show your superiority to the toy... that would be perfect. Must also be local to NYC

I'm thinking that a submissive who gets off on seeing all of the layers and aspects of power exchange and who would relish watching someone else get put through the wringer would be ideal - someone who is submissive enough not to want to be doing-of-the-things, but who would greatly enjoy partaking in the process of that happening to someone else - seeing their 'misfortune', so to speak, and who would enjoy verbalizing aspects of that as it plays out (the toy doesn't externalize things particularly well, and that dialogue would likely add multiple layers of reinforcement for all parties.)

I'm very open to negotiation regarding how this might play out: what your needs and limits are; what you want to try; and what you need in the way of security and safeguards in order to stay safe as we talk/meet/etc.

If you feel you might like to talk further, please DM me (not chat please) and we can take it from there.

If you don't feel comfortable writing longer messages or talking about yourself, that's fine - just send me a short note referring to this posting and I can reply in kind and take it from there. I will definitely want to meet before getting all hands on. I care most about the connection and intimacy aspects of this kind of play, so chemistry is paramount. If we hit things off then you will definitely also have the opportunity to talk with or meet the toy before getting into anything. If you're not interested in playing directly with the toy but are interested in still being the one who is chosen or preferred over it on occasion, this could also work.

Just FYI, I tend to prefer moving to Telegram sooner rather than later (because I don't allow Reddit to send me notifications.) Telegram is a secure, encrypted, open-source, multi-platform messaging client which offers great flexibility in the forms of communication it offers. If that doesn't work for you when I ask, let me know what works for you.

I look forward to hearing from any of you getting hot under the collar around the idea of this ;)

Have a very... stimulating day!