First Things First (Please Read)

Time to be a bit more selective this time around. As starters, I rarely respond to messages from:

Sadists, micromanagers, or heavy protocol-oriented Doms/Masters;

Anyone younger than me (<32);

Anyone much older than me (55 );

Anyone not residing in The Netherlands;

Anyone already in a relationship (whether that be an open relationship, a polyamorous relationship, or any other dynamic);

Anyone only open to (NSA) play;

Anyone that wants to partakes into kinks/activities that are amongst my hard limits.

•Single word or one liner messages. If you want to stand out, put in some effort.

✅? Read on...

Hi! Thanks for taking a peek at my personal! After almost a year away from the dating scene, it's about time to put myself out there again.

General

Dutch, Caucasian, 5'7, no kids, single. Strange mixture of sporty, cute and classy. Blonde hair, grey eyes, slender/athletic. By general standards, I am apparently considered quite attractive. Good career, independent and financially stable. Bit introvert, although I find myself mesh best with extraverts and ambiverts. I suppose opposites attract. I am passionate about history and enjoy medieval themed series, movies and books. Mostly based on true events (like Philippa Gregory's novels), but sometimes with a fantasy twist. I love writing and drawing. Walks at the beach or park. I value healthy food and keep in shape by exercising daily. Bit of a princess that any day would choose luxury cruises to sunny destinations over skiing and camping/hostels. Don't worry, I don't expect you to pay.

What brings me to this sub?

Early on I've realized that I need a figure of authority in my life. This may stem back due to having a mostly absent father growing up, or at least that is the excuse I tend to tell myself. I've dated traditionally, but it just didn't do it for me. There was always something missing. I yearn for a specific type of partner. For an individual that puts his focus primarily on providing affection, guidance and non-sexual intimacy. For someone very loving and caring, a man that values his girl getting sufficient sleep, consumes healthy nutrients, and makes sure cuddles and praise are (more than) frequently provided. Someone his girl could turn to for advice and comfort, and holds her accountable for transgression (within reason). I love pet names like little kitten and baby girl. My heart would melt if you reach out for my hand and hold it while we are about to cross a street, or for you to ensure I am wearing a scarf before heading out while it's freezing. Head pats and kisses, being tickled playfully, pulled into hugs, cute stuff like that. A Daddy Dom, minus the age play part.

In terms of bedroom preferences, I kinda only have one 'thing', which, mind you, is not strictly sexual. So, since as long as I can remember, I've been into spanking. I can't really explain why. What intrigues me is not the pain, because I'm not a masochist. I've come to realize that I'm only into certain scenarios, implements and positions (hand, over the knee). The ones with a caring and nurturing element to them, if that makes sense. Being held accountable by an alpha man makes me feel safe, protected and loved. Needless to say, aftercare kisses, cuddles and rubs are vital. ♥ I am on FL and will share my profile if we've chatted sufficiently.

Now to the stuff that I don't like. I don't respond well when my person would raise their voice, curses either at me or frequently in general, is disproportionately strict, or handles me aggressively (physically) besides safe, sane, consensual spanking. I don't engage with guys that "don't do safe words", have the means to go all out on me during one of the first sessions or try to convince me to do things I am not comfortable with at all (see limits). Professionally I may be a tough cookie, but to the right partner I am submissive, obedient and vulnerable and need someone willing and able to wield that power and responsibility. I also need you to be very, very patience. This strictly because I've had a few less enjoyable experiences, which I am not allowing to see repeated.

My Perfect Fit

You are single, a true care giver/daddy type, and looking for an exclusive relationship with a reserved little subbie. Preferably primarily into spanking, but not into the hardcore stuff (blood or heavy bruises). You are calm (but playful), patient, stable, reliable, courteous, respectful, which you receive naturally, not demand. You say what you do and you do what you say. You take pride in the knowledge that you're keeping someone healthy and safe, not break them down and put them in harms way. You can take (or crack) a joke and aren't into super strict Dom-mode 24/7. You do not have children but may be open to them in the future. You are 32 years of age or older, but no older than 45 (I wish to eventually be able to introduce you to friends and family without getting frowns due to a huge age gap). Residing in The Netherlands or frequently visiting there for work. I enjoy short and spontaneous dates, like just going for a walk and grabbing coffee together. Being countries apart kind of rules that out, hence why I only seek local.

Attraction matters, therefore a comely body is favored. Since I'm pretty tall myself at 5'7 without heels, please be tall too (6'2 ). We should 'make sense' not only mentally, emotionally and intellectually, but also physically. Lastly, you have your life in order, which in my dictionary means you are employed, debt-free and no longer live in your mom's basement. You can expect all that from me in return. Cat lovers to the front row. ♥

Still here? If you think we might be a match and decide to reach out, I look forward to hear from you. In your message, please tell me something about yourself. I'm specifically interested in:

Age

Height

Location

Relationship status

Kink preference and experience

Who are you as a person?

What are your hobbies?

And what is it about my post that caused you to contact me?

Also kindly add 'lemon cakes' in your message so I'll known you've read my entire post. Any messages not containing these words, or answers to the bullet points above, will be instantly discarded.

Thanks again and looking forward to meeting you. 😊

Attention: You do not have permission to call me degrading names, send unsolicited dick pics, or be a disrespectful jerk by any other means. Ridiculous this has to be said but a sub standing up for herself, specifying her wants and needs, does NOT mean she's any less submissive. There is a significant difference between being selectively submissive and being meek and docile to any passing bloke. I am not the latter.

And gents, remember, a sub does not owe a Dom any sort of obedience or compliance until she and him have agreed to become partners. So please, educate yourself before introducing yourself to me. I am definitely not here to entertain anyone's god/superiority complex.

Lastly, while I used male nouns in my ad, I'm also very much open to a biological femme Domme. No offence to the trans-community; just not my cup of tea is all.

Hard limits Anything illegal, bathroom stuff, spitting in mouth, vaginal fingering with untrimmed nails, face slapping, facials, CNC/free use, feet, infant play (i.e expected to wear and use diapers), TPE/micromanagement, wardrobe control, blood and extreme pain (heavy bruises, knives, needles), orgasm denial, nipple torture, any humiliation that harms my self esteem, bimbofication, threesomes, gangbangs, and probably others that I don't know the name of or that they exist.