tl;dr: Experienced dominant seeks submissive for loving, committed relationship based around power exchange, service-oriented submission, and honest, open communication.

If the thought of belonging wholly to someone, leaning into them, and having them lift you up and make you better calls to you — read on.

A little about me:

• I’m 37, male, Asian, 180cm with a fit/athletic body type.
• I’m located in Singapore, with a very liberal and international outlook on life. I’ve lived in many different countries throughout my life, and also travel extensively for work.
• I have a meaningful job I'm deeply passionate about, and count myself lucky to be able to live the life I do.
• I believe in kindness, idealism interwoven with pragmatism, and a spirit of constant self-improvement. My friends would describe me as principled and intense about the big picture, but surprisingly laidback about the small stuff.

I gel best with people who are driven but kind, and comfortable in their own skin. If you’re interesting, motivated, and in tune with your own desires, I’d love to speak to you. I prize good communication and a quick, adaptable wit.

In terms of kink, the primary dynamic that I’d like us to have is power exchange — particularly one centred around ownership, service, and obedience, with a strong lean towards a nurturing and shaping dynamic filled with personal growth. My motivation as a dominant arises from helping you develop into the best possible version of yourself, both for you and for me. I respond to enthusiasm in kind, and appreciate forthcoming and affection-filled submission.

We would be an excellent fit if you’re looking for an honest, authoritative dom, and enjoy things like power exchange, mentorship, guidance, and ownership dynamics. You want to be a loving, supportive partner to a dominant who will simultaneously believe in and uplift you; you do not need micromanagement, but want to always feel both owned and loved.

We would not be good together if you’re primarily looking for a sadist to hurt you, or are chiefly interested in age regression as part of the dynamic.

You are, hopefully:

• Single and age-appropriate. Let’s say ten down and ten up (27-47).
• Slim/fit/athletic. I keep fit and am looking for someone on the same page, relatively speaking.
• Looking for a committed, kink-based relationship that extends beyond the bedroom and is based around the parameters outlined above: power exchange, service-oriented submission, and honest, open communication.
• A believer in inclusivity and diversity, and very much not a racist, bigot or all-round asshole.
• Nicotine-free, no children, and intending to remain childfree.

If you fall outside these parameters but think you’re otherwise an exceptional match, please get in touch. They’re guidelines rather than hard rules.

I’m in Singapore and Tokyo most of the time, but as mentioned above travel around the world a lot for work (for instance, I’ll be in Jakarta and then San Francisco soon), so please reach out regardless of your location! I'm happy to share my Fetlife profile, discuss specific kinks, and voice/video verify a little down the line once we get to talking.

I hope to hear from you soon!