I am a 41-year-old professional man who is into the world of consensual "non-consent," and is looking for a woman with a complementary interest. To be clear at the outset, I am a perfectly sane, respectable person who wants to do this the right way -- safely and openly and with clear lines of communication. Like you, I live in the real world, and I do not at all expect that you would immediately place yourself in a potentially violent or excessively aggressive scenario. I aim to start off in a measured way, and have the following in mind.

You are the devoted wife or girlfriend, and I am the employer of your husband or boyfriend. And, well, to be honest, business has been slow and your s.o.'s performance hasn't been up to standard. That means that, as much as I hate to say it, I'm going to have to let him go.

But of course you have bills to pay! Mouths to feed? Elderly in-laws who depend on the income? And can't I find it in the goodness of my heart to forebear? And isn't there anything you could do to . . . I mean, isn't there anything?

Why, as a matter of fact . . .

Let's take it slow. I just want to have a look down your blouse? Cast my gaze? Cop a feel? Maybe you could just touch it? And so on, down a slippery slope. You're pleading for your husband's livelihood, and I get it: you really care. And I won't tell anyone, will I? And it's not really infidelity when it's for the sake of the family, right? And can't I see how much you care? And what kind of a woman do I think you are? Well, by this point, we've already established that, haven't we?

That said, I want it to be more about embarrassment, humiliation, and psychology than brute force. It can become a bit aggressive if we (emphasis on we) want it to. But we can talk about that privately.

How does it work? Well, I believe that being with a relative stranger actually enhances the scenario as it helps supply some of the anxiety and nervousness and loss of control that underpins it. I don't want to eliminate that, but for safety's sake we'll definitely need to exchange some messages and define any obvious hard limits. Maybe say a bit about what attracts us each to his and her particular perspective here. Then, if we think we're a good fit, we'd meet in public for a drink or a cup of coffee. That is an absolute must, as much for me as for you. If and only if we establish a basic level of trust and comfort, we'd go someplace private to explore the dynamic (and that doesn't necessarily happen the same night we meet). Your limits are absolutely respected and you can define your own safe words.

Okay, who am I? I am tall, dark, and handsome. Ha, well, at least I am tall, and I do have dark hair and eyes. You can be the judge of handsome (although certainly some women have thought so!). Also, I'm reasonably fit and slim. Looking for someone local who is height-weight proportionate and open to the vulnerability this scenario entails.

I'm educated, clean-cut, and very, very sex- and kink-positive. No judgments! We're here to indulge, not conform!

Still interested? Let me know with a direct message . . .