You are an independent, intelligent person. Is it really so bad that what you want to be used? So what if you what makes you wet isn’t slow, romantic lovemaking, but being held down, spanked, and taken. What excites you isn’t flowers and candy or candle-lit dinner. Your romance is service, and those candles have a better purpose. So what if you prefer “slut” or “good girl” to “honey” or “sweetheart.” Does that make you less of a woman? Mother? Feminist? And do you have any less power for choosing to give it to someone else?

Hello, reddit subs. I’m looking for a partner for some mutual fun and distraction. In terms of my particular brand of domination, I’m the type of person that has a distinctly different personality as a Dom than I do in everyday life—I’ve even been told that my eyes change. I think talking about and getting to know each other’s kinks is part of the fun, but generally speaking I’m stern-but-affectionate. I’m a sensual sadist and rigger. I’ve been in the lifestyle for years, but I’m constantly learning and trying to grow as a Dom and expect the same from you, so any level of experience is okay.

Outside of the lifestyle, I’m a thoughtful, artistic type that has to have a creative project going at all times. I’ve been able to marry that into the lifestyle by making my own restraints/collars/rope/impact toys, etc. So if things work out, expect artistic gifts. I love art, movies, books, podcasts, music, and the fall. Physically, I’m average height and build, but very active. Dark brown hair and eyes. I’m poly/ENM and married, but only dating for myself. I’m always up for conversation, but only interested in local/driving distance partners. If you think we might be a good fit, message me (preferably inbox instead of chat) and tell me a bit about yourself. Thanks for reading