Welcome! Thank you for being here.

I am a submissive who has taken a break from BDSM activities, outside of erotica and staying in touch with some gems/ friends from the past that I met through local fetlife events.

I went through a phase of questioning my sexuality- after dabbling in vanilla interactions and finding them to be healthy but still missing something - I wasn’t certain if I was truly a submissive. I am exploring whether I’m bisexual or queer, though feeling more comfortable with my fluidity these days.

I took the time to travel solo, invest in myself, learned to embrace solitude.

Even after all that, I still feel the ache of loneliness. There is a BDSM sized gap in my heart that is not filled. I live a beautiful life, I have a career that feeds me, but I still feel a sense of grief when I allow myself to think about the submissive part of my identity. I don’t know if it’s ever been satisfied.

I would like to put myself out there again. Maybe the universe is ready to teach me through partnership.

I do feel that the time away has given me perspective and depth. If anything, I will be more grateful than I was in the past. I can’t take anything for granted. I’ve been my own Domme, and that’s a lot of effort and consistency!

Please respond to this ad if:

-You are someone who values self awareness

• You are genuine, accountable and an excellent communicator

• You are willing to take things gradually and get to know each other in a way that is intentional but relaxed

• You are naturally strict and firm and not afraid to interact that way from the start

• You have some sadistic tendencies and/or are prepared to inflict pain not just during discipline but also during intimacy

I will stop there. It feels like enough. As for me, here is some information that may be helpful:

• I am tall, curvy (soft, healthy weight), pale with light eyes and LONG hair

• I am a social worker

• I tend to shy away from extroverted things and small talk unless it’s about a topic I’m passionate about (metaphysical things, viola, psychedelics)

• I come from a traditional, religious, conservative background

Thank you for reading my ad. I look forward to hearing from you.