BDSM is my passion in life. I've been involved for over 23 years in everything from D/s relationships to teaching classes to making my own toys. I've made bondage furniture, sold leather toy commissions and try to volunteer regularly in the community regularly. I can share background, stories, pictures and more to prove I am who I say I am. Vetting, character references, skill references and more are all available. I have a ton of info on my profile here as well.

Why post an ad on Reddit? You would expect someone with that much history to have friends, connections, play partners and more - and I do. BDSM is a very broad spectrum of activities. "Mainstream" activities like sex, bondage and impact play are fairly easy to find, but edge play enthusiasts are much rarer. There are fewer of us who enjoy those darker fantasies and they often don't feel comfortable sharing their desires for fear of judgement or shaming. A personal ad here helps me connect with you wherever you are because distance and location are generally problems I can solve - but I can't fix mismatched interests.

I practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink because it is less subjective than other approaches like Safe, Sane, Consensual (Who decides if it is safe or sane?). We both need to understand the risks, enthusiastically consent to the activity and then enjoy. This is especially important in edge play that has more risk than a bit of spanking or rough sex.

Now, on to the fun things! Listed below are a few examples of edge play I enjoy and have done. Each of these things were asked for, negotiated and consented to. You can pick things from this list or negotiate your own - everyone is different and has different desires/needs.

• Consensual non-consent - A lot of people focus on sexual things, but CNC applies to any kind of "forced" activity. Forced to be something you aren't - a bimbo, a traditional housewife or an animal? Online exposure? No safeword or intoxicated play? Or maybe it just feels wrong to like these things and it's easier to be "forced" to do them.
• Long duration situations - A few hours means some focused fun. A few days lets me vary the intensity of things. A few weeks starts to let me really mess with your head or test endurance. Want more? I had a 12-year M/s relationship and am open to something similar in the future.
• Training and conditioning - Want your behavior changed to display your submissiveness? Taught to be extremely feminine or the perfect sex toy? Or maybe a trigger permanently programmed into you? I once turned a panic inducing phobia into a fetish that she begged for constantly. Maybe trained to be someone altogether different that you don't even recognize as yourself.
• Abduction/"break in" - Planned times and schedules can make certain types of play feel fake and less real - nothing a kidnapping and time at an undisclosed location 150 miles away can't fix. Or maybe you just want someone to have the key to your house and the ability to walk in and use you anytime?
• Fear play - Need to be scared to orgasm? Like to ride the adrenaline? How real do you want it to feel? Maybe you are terrified of the crackle of electricity or the sight of a needle. Maybe you like the slow burn of tight confinement and sensory deprivation. Or the rapid panic of no air when plastic is pulled over your face.
• Mind fucks/humiliation/degradation - Do you want someone to get to know all the dark corners of your head - and then use them against you? What things make you squirm but also drip? Highlight all your bad live choices? Exposure? Play with the religious/family/social beliefs programmed into you as a child? Watersports? Fetishize your mental health issues?
• Hard bondage - A lot of people enjoy a bit of bondage. Some even enjoy tight, constricting things for a while. But everyone has a line where bondage becomes suffering. Where is your line and how far across it do you want to go? Want to be a piece of furniture in my house?
• Predicaments - How do you feel when there is no "good" course of action? Caught in that terrifying moment where you must make a choice, but each outcome means a different and equally horrible type of suffering?

What if your favorite fantasy wasn't listed? Send me a chat anyway! I have very few personal limits - I don't want you in the hospital, I don't want to be in jail, and I don't force non-kinksters to become involved in my play. If you want to suffer, be forced or modified in some way I'm going to enjoy it.

Online is a way for me to meet people, get to know them and negotiate play - I do not participate in sexting or online play like giving instructions. I would love to talk if you are:

• Seriously interested in finding a play partner or relationship to make your fantasies become reality.
• Unable to indulge in real life play but enjoy talking about our shared interests.

Good luck in your search! I hope you find what you are looking for.

Damon