I am a -31 year old male -soft/pleasure Dom -white (like napkin white 😂) -6'0" -Independently financially conformable (not wealthy but I don't "need" to work to survive) -die hard hopeless romantic -Classically trained musician -Planning to go get my doctorate -divorced -military veteran -active lifestyle and reasonably healthy diet -lifelong martial artist (25 years) -learned to cook from a 2 Michelin star chef -sterile and childless but choice -goes to therapy monthly for maintenance care -lives alone

Looking for a submissive who is -short (ideally below 5'6") -petite/fit -feminine features and personality -doesn't want kids -18-30 (wiggle room on the top end) -loves her career path/current job -values education/art -i have a particular weakness for Indian women (not a race play thing for me, just a preference, I think I recently discovered where this preference came from and I'll tell you the story because it's kind of dorky)

Kinks include -24/7 adjacent (have outside lives but you're always mine and I'm always yours) -collaring/ownership (play collar and eventually permanent one) -mild bondage -sensory play/deprivation -mild impact play (face/breasts/ass/pussy)(open hand/crop) -gagging (fingers/gags) -throat training -anal (sex/licking/training/plug wear) -mild public play (plugs/balls/wearable toys while out together, road head, balcony sex) -quasi tantric play -mutual CNC (overall blanket consent to get what we need from each other when we need/want it) -marking (hickeys/scratches) -choking/hair pulling/biting -forced orgasms/orgasm control/overstimulation

Looking for someone to explore and build a life with. I'm divorced following my ex-wifes affair, so loyalty and trust are top priorities.

I love marvel movies, anything star wars, video games, classical music, museums, aquariums, anything introspective really. I don't currently have one but would like to adopt a cat in the near future.

I want the kind of life where whoever wakes up first makes coffee and wakes the other up with oral, before getting ourselves to our morning workout. Where flirting/playful tension is there norm for us. Where we'll come up behind the other and tease them while whispering in their ear. Sitting on the couch together doing our own things as long as some part of you is touching me. Romance doesn't need to die and neither does intimacy. Shower together more often than we do apart. Our weekday evenings we might go for evening walks or go out to dance tango, watch movies and cook dinner. Once a week spend the whole evening in bed drinking each other in like it's our last night together.

Maybe it's too much to hope for but I'm putting it out there.

For all those out there looking for your forever person on the other side of slash best of luck.