It would probably be really slick if I were going to write some hail-mary missive here where I pretended to know what is in your head already, but I’m not that dramatic or religious and you’re not that dumb.

Cool?

Cool.

I’m a genderqueer, ethnically non-monogamous 42yo AMAB dominant. I’m an avid cook, decent baker, multi-instrumentalist, singer-songwriter, audio engineer, woodworker and tinkerer. All that is to say, I’m rarely bored or boring and very good with my hands.

To make this difficult, I genuinely dislike video games, CGI superhero movies and most of popular culture. Definitely some curmudgeon with a heart of gold vibes here.

I’m looking for a service-oriented, masochistic, submissive Good Girl ™. Assigned gender at birth/genitalia/biological sex are all unimportant, but leaning femme-presenting probably is. Age is not particularly important, but it is essential that you know and can articulate your wants and needs, even if you’re still exploring.

I am looking for someone close that I can create a beautiful long-term power exchange dynamic with. I am looking for someone that needs to serve others, feels fulfilled having their clothing chosen for them, and enjoys chastity/orgasm denial and edging, bondage of all sorts, breath play, impact play and the gorgeous intersection of tenderness and sadism that I have to share. You need to be in/near Santa Cruz or excited to come here weekly. I’m happy to talk online initially, but this is an in-person situation.

I want to put you through very difficult situations and tell you how proud I am of you.

Intelligence is sexy. Ability to hold a conversation is sexy. A dark sense of humor is sexy. Self-sufficiency is sexy. Being able to think for yourself is sexy. Life experience is sexy. Surrendering control and having your collar jingle as you do chores with a plug inside you and ankle irons on is very, very sexy.

I look at power exchange as an actual exchange, and I don’t just mean that as I get to spank you and you get to be spanked. I want to create order, rituals and accountability in your life. You want to serve and feel a sense of purpose, be that through physical suffering, mental privation or washing dishes at a party where you’re wearing latex and gagged the whole time.

Write me something interesting.