There isn't a lot that I take lightly, and degrading another human being is no exception, no matter how tongue-in-cheek. I'm not here to bark insults at strangers, and I don't expect anyone to submit to me immediately either. It feels cheap, meaningless, and that's not what I want. This also means I won't barrage you with dick pics and I won't beg for nudes from you either. I prefer the feeling of learning, building, growing, progressing towards something. I want to find someone who will only submit to someone they feel is worthy, and I want to prove that I am indeed worth it. Conversely, I want a sub who is worth my time and energy.

I would prefer to find someone who considers their fantasies to be pretty dark, especially if they bleed into non-sexual aspects of life. I'm comfortable working with trauma, depression, mental and physical disability, and the like. I'm not cavalier about sexualizing these sorts of things, but I know it happens and I'm very intrigued by it, and how/when/why we do it. I'd love to have meta discussions about this in tandem to a D/s dynamic. I intend to spend a lot of time talking and discussing, so the ability to think critically, articulate yourself, and communicate effectively are important.

Degradation and humiliation are front and center for this post because they are generally a good litmus test for other kinks I enjoy. Generally speaking, having less limits is better of course, but at the very least I'm interested in finding someone who craves orgasm control, and enjoys plenty of anal play. I have many more and would love to discuss them if this post interests you. I don't really enjoy "limit play." If you have hard limits, I will respect them, and I'd encourage you to be honest with yourself (and me if applicable) about what you consider a hard limit.

One thing to note is that I'm married and only looking to pursue something online. I will be keeping details of my marriage private. I have no preference for whether a potential partner is involved or not, but I'm willing to play up the "side piece" angle if it overlaps with your kinks. I'm comfortable with women in other relationships, married, ENM, or otherwise, and all levels of participation around that. That said, I do not have other submissives; I'm certainly not recruiting a harem or whatever.

I'm comfortable with women of all ages and races. I'm comfortable with most body types, especially if that body type is a source of insecurity that I can exploit. I have a lot of experience administering diet and exercise programs for subs, so if you're overweight and want to use this dynamic as an excuse to drop body fat, I can be a good resource for that. I enjoy making it a factor in a dynamic, so even if you are underweight or just curious about resistance training, let me know. All that being said though, there is a level of obesity at which I stop being attracted to a person, and it honestly varies from person to person so I can't conclusively express some number or measure. Just be aware.

I'm pretty flexible about other details of the dynamic. I like to collaborate and build something together organically. If you've read this far and you're still interested, reach out (PM preferred), and tell me at least 1 embarrassing or humiliating fact or story about yourself, and anything else you want me to know right away.