So as the title says, I am a 38 year old switch looking for a sub.

So, who am I?

I am almost 2 meter tall, quite a slim build. I have a fulltime job in IT and live alone without pets. I have a car so I am mobile. Next to my job I enjoy playing video games, walking in nature and eating nice food. Cooking that food, less so, but that may be because I mostly cook for myself which is boring. If I'm on holiday, or otherwise find myself quite relaxed I also read; I used to swear by paper, but have accepted an e-reader in my life and am slowly getting rid of the paper versions.

Yes, I'm Dutch and speak Dutch as well.

I have been dabbing around bdsm for about 20 years now, in both roles, but mostly as an online sub myself. My Dom experience is limited.

What about you?

I'm looking for a submissive female to play with, mostly offline. I want to build a connection and I prefer to see, hear, smell, feel what I do if it leads to play. Depending on how we both see things, some vanilla-dating could be an option. If there is an offline connection, some online play can be added as well.

I mentioned my Dom experiences are limited so you should be able can communicate/help me evolve and can be patient when needed. We should be able to laugh together if some of these fun experiments go weirdly sideways.

I will never intentionally do something you do not want and immediately stop doing something if you decide you don't want it halfway; but you'll need to be able to let me know and preferably we'll find a way to give positive feedback too.

I will never ghost you, I'll have time to talk, or cuddle after we have played; I'd prefer you comfortable and safe near me for the rest of the night over you heading home immediately after play.

Some of likes include orgasm control, bondage/restraints, blindfolds, hidden/semi public, light/medium pain, teasing, oral (both give and receive)

Some things I'm not into are age play/diapers, blood, permanent damage

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I won't expect you to just show up at my house on our first meet. But, send me a message if you are interested to talk and perhaps to go grab a coffee some day?