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Wait, that pick up line usually goes differently, doesn't it? Oh well. Anyway, play is serious business. Have you ever seen a child play? That shit is intense as fuck. No talking, no thinking, just pure concentration on doing the thing for the sake of doing it and having fun. There's nothing more serious than building a sand castle at the beach, and then having the world end because a wave destroyed it.
"I will not be deterred!" you almost hear the little mind yell at itself, and then the kid moves the whole setup just a few meters away from the ocean, only for it all to happen all over again. At this point, the child probably will start crying and go to mommy for a hug, kiss and a juicebox. Then, as if nothing happened, the child goes back to the infinitely intense responsibility of exploring and playing.
That's me. I'm the child. Everyone has an inner child, but if I can't be mine, I just feel bad. I'm not immature, just very childlike in my enthusiasm. And I'm serious about it. Play is very important. Very important. Did I emphasize it enough? Let me try again. Very important. There you go :D
So yeah, when I play with you in the general sense, I take it seriously. That means that if you want me to degrade you, I'll use all of my innocent focus to get into role and be a good degrader to you. Or if you want me to cuddle, I'll be the biggest huggy touchy feely smoochy bear for you :D
All of that being said, I don't like adult 'protocol'. Imagine me saying this in a mocking tone: "Oh, hello. I understand you're a Dom? How much experience in do you have in Domming? Oh? That's good. I am looking for someone who can degrade me, but I want to get to know eachother first. Have a meeting to see if we're a click and then talk about kinks and whatnot. Do you have time?"
Or the average naked lady posting here on reddit. Now imagine me saying this in a posh tone, and perhaps a pinky sticking out and my nose in the air, "Eough, you have to lick it before you can fuck it."
Or worse, people who get horny and demand physical attraction. Let's be honest, none of us are hot enough to demand Brad Pitt to respond. And if one of us is, I'm sure there's not really all that much going on in those heads. Blegh. Besides, if you demand me being an adonis, then I demand you being a supermodel. Can you live up to the promise? No? Well, then you have to contend with my average self.
The fun in playing is that trust is implied. That you're safe, because we live in a civilized society. I'm not here to hurt you. You can assume that you're safe. That means I also want to feel safe in 'playing' and being allowed to be childish and innocent. Imagine a child coming up to their dad with a foam pirate sword. Then the dad starts playing along and 'swordfighting'. That level of comfort is what I'm looking for. Both in the role of the dad, as well as the child. If either of us says something, the other should go along, and weave how they feel into the roleplay. If we have to argue with or defend ourselves from the other, we've already lost.
I can be an abuser, but it's an act. It might feel real, but it's not. That's why it's play. If you don't say the safeword, I'm assuming you're okay with the roles we're playing and what's going on. Until then, I'll be in the role and expect you to emotionally play along. The moment it's said, I'll revert to my normal emotionally available self and we can talk about it.
So, if you want to have some playtime (and I hope you realize it's not those empty kinds of fun) and are serious about it enough to not ghost me, send me a message.
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