Hey all! Back at the dating thing, I guess. A quick background on me is that I am a 37 year old affectionate guy looking for the one. I was married for 12 years and divorced about two years ago. We were polyamorous for the last few years of our marriage, but we were not the most compatible. After the divorce, I was engaged to a partner I thought was the one for me, but people aren't always as they seem. They were not ready to be in a real relationship and I had to find that out the hard way sadly. I am Single for the first time in 15 years and not looking to play games. I want to find an honest and loving person who understands the important of communication.
Some Info -
I am a person that sees needy and clingy as positives. Physical touch is important to me. I was engaged to someone from another country, so Long Distance is something I am open to for the right person if plans are to be physically together sooner than later. Words carry a lot of weight, and quality time is important as well. Show me you care with compliments, words of encouragement, interest in me, and by wanting to spend time with me. We could be hanging out, watching a movie, cuddling, having a deep conversation, on a two hour phone call, or video chatting. It is not the "what" by the "why". I am not looking for a casual thing. No hookups, play partners, or friends with benefits. I want to fall in love and be married. Having kids sounds amazing, but it is not a must. I've had some health issues over the last few years especially with COVID, going through a divorce, and working from home... I am working on them, eating better, and losing weight. If a person's size or weight is an issue at all, I am not the person for you.
What I am looking for
-Open to Local or Long Distance (LDRs) that will be together in person eventually
-Something deeper/emotional
-Communication/Enjoys texting, phone calls, video chats, hanging out. This is very important to me. I like to be in contact all day, every day. If you are someone that needs days to not speak, then our connection will suffer. I understand if people are busy, but I mean if a person has nothing going on and simply does not want to talk. If you are unsure, ask me. And I will gladly elaborate
-Honesty
-Long lasting relationship
-A close bond/friendship as part of things
-Someone that enjoys kissing, cuddling, physical touch, affection
-Chemistry
-Kink Friendly . I am a DD, and having a Little is important to me. I've been a DD with a few different partners but they were mainly when I was Polyamorous. I am looking for a Monogamous relationship now and having a Babygirl/Little is something very important to me. How that looks depends on the person. I am not into AB/DL myself, but aspects of the relationship that I have dabbled with include: Age Regression, Age Play, Daily Structure (including earning stickers for doing your chores to earn prizes), I read bedtime stories, and collaring is something important to me. I have not had an in-person partner/Little long enough to experience more so it is still a learning experience for me. I am mainly a DD with sometimes having a softer, submissive side... so someone that can help to take care of me in some moments would be very helpful. I can go into Little or subspace at times, and it helps if you would be able to be there for me in those moments. Generally, I am DD most of the time.
Any questions, I am an open book and happy to answer.
What I bring to the table
I am someone that dotes over those I care about. Compliments, and cuddles. Kisses, and random I Miss You messages. I love being a rock for people to be able to lean on, and I am there when a person needs me. I will drop everything and drive to help someone in need if I am able to do so. I am patient, and try to be as understanding as I can. I will make you laugh and smile, and wipe away your tears when you definitely were cutting onions earlier. I am okay with someone having their own baggage or history. I am supportive and will do whatever I can to make you happy. I am loyal, and willing to go out on a climb for those close to me.
About me -
This section I've decided to make easier. Get to know me, ask questions, and I will gladly answer them. I will give some basic info to know some of my interests. But here are some important parts.
-I am an overweight guy. If you have to ask "how big are you" then this will not work. I am not defined by my size. I am limited physically by it in some aspects (i.e. I am not someone that will go hiking) but I do get out and do stuff. I love going to dinner, to the movies, and sports games when I can. If size is even a small thing that would hold you back, please do not waste our time. It is something I want to work on, but it is a life long struggle. If you cannot accept my size, I am not the guy for you. I am working on going out more and doing more, but you need to be patient with me.
-I have a history. I have baggage. I am needy and clingy. I have some issues with self worth and self value. I am not the most confident guy, but I will do my best for my partner to be a better person. If you can see through the murk, there is a devoted, loving, hopeless romantic in there. Just know that I am someone that is a work in progress and will need reassurance. If you are unable to handle that, I can respect that and wish you the best.
I Grew up in Cleveland, lived in Akron for a few years, and now reside in Parma. I am close to my family (parents and sister) and they are important to me. An expressive and emotional guy that wears his heart on his sleeve. At 37, dating is still relatively new to me not to mention being single for the first time since I was 22. It is a learning process. I love long, deep conversations. But I also enjoy silly memes and picture of cute animals.
I am -
Loyal/ Devoted
Honest / Caring
Geeky
Attentive / Hopeless Romantic
Open Minded / Kinky
Middle of the Road - Liberal Leaning
Pro-LGBTQ
I do fall into that teenage, hopeless romantic stage often. I want to make out on the couch with a movie on, and will get butterflies from just holding your hand.
I tend to love hard. I like to make people feel special. I love giving compliments and doting over those I like. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I am far from perfect and am working on being a better me. I fall fast, and I fall hard. I can be patient. I can build a friendship first. I want someone that likes talking and is willing to have long conversations with me. I want to be someone's priority. Someone willing to be 100% in the relationship. I've had to fight for relationships and often it ends up being one-sided. I want to be equals.
I am a geek, but I love sports. I love humor, but can be serious. I love to listen, but I can also talk. I love music, writing, and just getting lost talking to other people. I can attend a baseball game, or just sit on a porch at night and have a conversation for hours. I pride myself on being someone that can watch a documentary on Netflix, attend a baseball game, play Pokemon Go, or be silly and go swimming. I do not pin myself down to a certain label. I am me. And I can relate to a lot of different things, likes, and people.
And must like cats, or Luna is not going to be a fan. I've had Luna for 10 years... she is always there for me,
ESFJ
Extrovert(28%) Sensing(31%) Feeling(53%) Judging(31%)
Love Languages
12 Physical Touch
7 Quality Time
7 Words of Affirmation
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