Not that I'm quite at my mid-life crisis stage (56 sounds like far too few years) but I am approaching the point where I'd like a stable relationship. Maybe you're the one, maybe not, all we can do is start out on the right foot.

About me:

• I'm 28, Male, and British. I usually keep a beard, but shave it occasionally. Long Brown hair that I frequently keep in a man-bun Moderately hairy everywhere else.
• Average body type with broad shoulders. I dislike the gym, but I do try and walk a lot so I'm neither fat nor muscled.
• Nerd to the core. My heart goes out to card games and Nintendo most of all, with a dozen things around the side ranging from Trek to Anime.
• Recently spent a year travelling Japan post-covid and it's been an incredible experience, albeit lonely as a solo traveller, but I wouldn't replace it with anything. I'm returning home in June, so figure now is the best time to start looking.
• Side-hobby of creativity in many forms. I have written books, made erotica, created videos, all sorts. I've always wanted some kind of outlet.
• Would rather have a night in than a night out 99 times out of 100. There's plenty to see outside, but the club/pub scene is not for me.
• I love hearing laughter, so will throw out as many bad jokes as I can think of in the hopes that one hits.
• Typically one of the quieter people in the room, happy to listen and be a part rather than the centre of attention. That can change when I get more comfortable with someone.

In terms of kink, I've had relationships where I've been a sub and a dom, and only the former is fulfilling. I have enjoyed both parts and consider myself a switch, but the line comes down that I believe I can be happy in a relationship that involves only my subservience, but not the reverse. So I am seeking someone who sees things the same way. Whether you want to be in charge all the time or not, you know it's a part of your life you can't do without. That can simply be enough as each dynamic is different, but I will provide a non-exhaustive list of my kinks. Some of my favourites have some about through seeing what my partner likes so I look forward to seeing what we may discover together, but as it stands -

• Chastity, Tease & Denial - A main kink that doesn't need to be engaged in all the time, as I know it can get quite exhausting, but one I always come back to.
• Nipple Play E.G. Clamps. I'm weak to medium in taking pain elsewhere, but my nipples want to take it.
• Power Exchange - Giving something up, little or large, having an imbalance that hangs over us. Whether it be a rope, a key, or something you can surprise me with.
• Bondage - I never feel safer than when tied by someone I trust. I only worry about things when I can physically affect them, so when tied...well, I can't. It's bliss.
• Mild to Medium humiliation - I've found the line is somwhere around being called a worm, but having the way I whimper being mercilessly made fun of was so wickedly cruel it instilled this kink in me.
• Cuddles <- Every kinky session needs them somewhere from start to aftercare
• Not a brat, I prefer to obey than fight so long as I'm comfortable to do so.
• Not massively into PIV, prefer other things with significantly less pregnancy risk. It can happen but it's not my go-to
• I look forward to seeing what you add to this list, so long as it doesn't go against my -

Limits

• Anything sharper than a wartenberg wheel.
• The 'usual' extremes including Scat and it's ilk.
• Public with actual risk of discovery. I do not wish to commit crimes in the pursuit of my kink. But a cage or plug in public is acceptable!
• Domestic Servitude for it's own sake. I'd be fine to kink-ify my own share of the chores if it pleased you, but I don't get anything kinky from it.

About you

In truth, I've been with 3 people over my 28 years, the longest spanning 8 of those. It's given me some idea of who I'm searching for but I'm figuring it out, as well all are. Still, some rough outlines of who I'm imagining are -

• Aged 21-37ish. *Attraction is important.My favourite feature is a cute smile, but sharing faces is best left a little while, I find. So in lieu of that I'll say I am mainly attracted to femininity. This has a very wide and sweeping range, but I believe myself to be Gynesexual, making any sort of hard masculine look not be something I'm attracted to. Equally, I am not attracted anybody dangerously overweight.
• Either a switch or dominant. Only in the bedroom is fine, but I have found myself more attracted to women with a stronger personality than myself.
• Able to at least fake a laugh at my jokes as they get repeatedly worse
• Looking for a person over a plaything.
• Located in the general Manchester - Liverpool - Crewe area and looking to meet IRL. I've played before online and enjoyed it, and am happy to chat if you're outside this area, but I'm looking for meeting to be an eventuallity if we hit it off, not a difficult possibility.

And why reddit? I have had success here before leading to a year-long dynamic that ended mutually with my harm nor heartbreak, better than tinder or 'natural' meeting has given me. So I hope this post has inspired you to send me a message. I am happy to exchange pictures if we hit it off on a personal level, but I'd rather make sure of that first. If not, well you made it this far and realised I'm not for you, so I'll simply thank you for your time!