I know this is long, but I'm a complex being (and also I don't know how to shut up lol)

Hey, I'm Winnie/Winter! I'm queer and nonbinary/genderqueer (they/she), AFAB if it matters. I'm currently in western-central PA, but I'm planning on moving to Columbus, OH before the end of the year--but I'm also totally fine with long-distance!

I'm polyamorous. I have one partner currently and we date separately. (More about this, and about me in general, in a post on my profile in r/polyamoryr4r!)

I'm plus-size and unapologetic about it.

This is really important: I'm queer4queer. This means I'm only interested in seeing other queer people. Cis, straight men: please do not message me regarding this post. Beyond that, I don't care what your gender/sexuality/etc is.

I don't date cishets, Christians, or conservatives. I'm not interested.

I'm disabled/chronically ill and sometimes face barriers and limitations in what I can do. But I will always give 100% effort and 100% devotion.

I'm fairly kinky in theory, still a bit inexperienced in practice. I do need to have a real connection with someone outside of sex, so I'm not looking for a kink-onky/sex-only dynamic. I'm submissive, and I'm looking for someone who can fill the role of being dominant for me not only sexually, but also... somewhat incorporating it into lifestyle as well. I definitely do not need TPE, nor am I interested in that; but it would be nice to have some rules and structure in my life where I have none. I need someone who genuinely enjoys being a caretaker (with the understanding that I'm polyamorous, disabled, and generally just... not always/only a sub) and also wants to have a relationship beyond the kink dynamic. So ideally, I'm interested in someone who would be a partner first, and then also happens to a dom(me).

Kinks: I'm like 98% submissive. It takes a lot to pull anything dominant out of me lol. Bondage, spanking, choking, praise and degradation, exhibitionism and voyeurism, group sex, ddlg/mdlg, double penetration, knife play, somno, cnc, public sex (within reason). I'm definitely not a brat, but I can be a bit of a princess. Mostly I just want to be someone's good girl. Any of this could be on or off the table; I'm not necessarily looking for someone to fulfill every single of of my kinks! Just wanted to get them out there. Ddlg/mdlg is a big one for me though; it would be nice to meet a daddy dom or mommy domme. (Note that there is a sexual aspect to this kink for me; I know some people aren't into that, so I like to make it clear up front.)

I'm also open to other stuff depending on what my potential partner would be into, but I do have some hard limits like piss/scat, generally illegal stuff, etc, and I usually like to make it known that I'm not a masochist (obviously with my kinks I like a little pain and danger lol--but nothing extreme, so I probably wouldn't do well with a sadist). I think I'd do well with a soft dom(me) who has a bit of a dark side lol

I would love to talk and get to know each other first, and establish if we'd be interested in each other/compatible/etc. Then delve into dating, and setting up rules and boundaries surrounding a kink dynamic within that relationship. Full disclosure that I'm a survivor of CSA--I've had lots of therapy, but you're gonna have to earn my trust before we get to the sex.

If I haven't scared you away yet, DM me your favorite color (helps me to know you've read the whole post lol). Let's see what we can build together ❤️