Here's the four main ways I'm looking to connect with someone.

Firstly I really like emotional warmth. It's so nice to just be cozy and comfortable in bed with someone and stroke their hair softly and look after them. Emotional intimacy is profound and I really like it. I also think that aftercare and a general feeling of care for each other is really important.

Secondly I get on really well with people who are intellectually curious. I think everything is interesting when you get into the details and it's so nice to just talk about everything and anything. I knew a guy who studied paint drying professionally and listening to him talk was really interesting. So yeah if you just like to explore and learn and have a stack of unread books we'd get on well on that level I think.

Thirdly I'm polyamorous and I'm looking for others who actively wants that lifestyle. I'm open to more casual relationships and also I just am poly and that's not going to change. I want to be honest and open from the start whether it turns into a one off thing or for the long term. I am open to serious commitment with the right person.

Fourthly, and I guess this is what you are here for haha, I love kink. Like love love. I spend a huge amount of time thinking about erotic hypnosis, doing play sessions and making files. It's kind of a meta-kink in that it empowers everything else and so much is accessible in fantasy that isn't irl. (I have a whole long speech about the importance of fantasy if you want to hear it some time haha).

Have a look in my profile if you want to try out a file, hear my voice and give me a "test drive".

And yeah I'm also into a lot of other kinks including rope/bondage, impact, throat fucking, outfits, pain, humiliation, degradation, collars and shoes (love shoes!), just grabbing someone and holding them against the fucking wall while they melt ... there's so much, if there's stuff you think is too far out, try me! ... and a thing I like to call "snuggle sadism" which is about lying in bed with someone all tucked up and cozy, getting close, slowing down, getting that really rich, warm, erotic, vibe in the air and then being hard and mean to them ... and then snuggling them after.

There's a lot more I want to do in kink so yeah if you're a beginner that's ok and also I'd really like to go far and hard with someone who really wants to explore what they're capable of taking. I like to take someone to their emotional limits where they're a weepy mess in my arms. I love how kink takes down the barriers between people and creates so much intimacy.

I'm mostly a dom and I do have a sub side and it would be reasonably hard to connect that way. I have some experience with this stuff but I very much know the limits of my knowledge and how deep this world is and how much there is to learn.

If you want to say hi any time please do, I'm really open to having a chat and there's no pressure or obligation. It's fine if you're not sure what you want yet, if you're exploring, if you like to get into this stuff and then take breaks. It's ok. I really want to be as open and chilled about things as possible. If you want to chat a little and break off that's fine, whatever if comfortable.

Building a good quality, solid, relationship on a foundation of open, honest, communication is the best way to do things I think. And I'm for sure not perfect and I make mistakes, but I do try and I want things to be lovely as much as possible.

Good luck in your search for partners, hope you come across some wonderful people.