Are you looking to focus more on speaking to your own pleasure in the bedroom? Nothing is hotter than a woman who confidently asks for what she wants and praises me for giving it to her (or punishes me when I don't).

I'm in search of a playmate who is curious, sensual, and communicative. If interested, please chat me what interests you about my post.

I'm often making the decisions in life, so leaning into a sub role during playtime is a chance to relax. I get a lot of pleasure out of pleasing others and have a very caretaking nature to me.

I'm into femdom because I have often felt performance anxiety around sex as a dom normally responsible for taking the lead. This dynamic puts the control of my own orgasm out of my hands, which intensifies the erotic energy and increases my sensual stamina and ability to stay present.

Desires for playmate: - good communicator - open minded and curious - sensual play at first, not necessarily sexual - ongoing play - looking to learn about herself as well as play together - open to light communication outside of playtime

Boundaries - emotional space needed between seeing each other - no sleepovers (at first) - no kissing on lips or intercourse (at first) - no involving others unless agreed to (other than therapists) - scene boundaries discussed before play

Safety - public meetup to see chemistry first - review consent and potential triggers in person - has existing mental health support or sets it up - friend who knows to check on you before/after - establish safe words for slowing, pausing, and ending scene - regular STI testing and communication about potential effects of other relationships on each other

Aftercare - ~30min-1hr to discuss feelings about what felt good and what to change for next time - open to hugs, cuddling, watching a show, eating to decompress