So, hello and also hi, first of all.

I posted here about a couple weeks ago, looking for friends, because I'd just mutually (ish) separated from my previous partner. Time with my therapist and general reflection has given me some much needed alone time to process it, and become okay with the relationship being over and done now.

That being said, I still miss the companionship of a relationship. I know what you're thinking, reading this, you're probably wondering why I've elected to post here if I'm looking for a partner and not a dominant.

I'm looking a dominant, romantic partner. I know, I've heard things about people who keep their kink lives and relationships separate, but, I can't see myself not wanting to fall for my partner in an intimate way, and romantic way. I'd wanna be with the person who I'm intimate with.

IMPORTANT STUFF - things you should know up front!!!

🎃Kink List/Me - Censored

• https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1YtBp3azuJvAfhdq5Hh6n3vkyAKsCMGQuDvLGKrQKESI/edit?usp=sharing
• https://imgur.com/a/J56Nk9K, https://imgur.com/a/pHFhFxq

🎃26 years old.

• Cisgendered woman with she/her pronouns.

🎃Age Limit - 23 to 34 ONLY.

• I only put this here because I realized my discomfort with people too older than I, or younger. Rather than waste time, I'll just say it now. Please do NOT interact if you're not within the specified range. Anywhere from 23 to 34 is gooood.

🎃Plus Sized/Fat/BBW - whatever you'd like to call it.

• I have belly fat, thighs, stretch marks, etc. Please note this before you reach out to me, Censored photos listed. I don't want to 'surprise' anyone, if I'm not your cup of tea, that's ok! Be respectful. I'm still a person.

🎃I am mentally ill and I DO take treatment.

• I see a therapist and take medication. I have Clinical Depression, ADD, Anxiety, and C-PTSD. I'm noting this up front, because I desperately need you to understand that while I receive care, it is NOT a cure all, and I do have my days. Days where I can be withdrawn, silent, or sometimes difficult. I have my faults, and I've came a long way from when my illness ruled over me, but I am not perfect. This does NOT mean it's ok to take it out on you, it means I am trying my damnest. I am trying to be a better person with each day, each pill or therapy session.

🎃Black woman, left leaning political ideologies and ideas.

• Pro LGBT, Pro POC, Woman's Rights. 2nd Amendment is mostly okay. If you're down with this, we'll get along great.

🎃Not looking for just sex, or sexual only interactions.

• Let me repeat this, I'm NOT INTERESTED in purely sexual relationships. I'd go on Fetlife if I wanted to be talked to like an object (I'll die on that hill, that website is wild, 2wild4mi) instead of just a person with kinks. I want a genuine connection, as friends (flirting allowed, if we vibe) first, and once we get there, we'll do it ORGANICALLY.

WHAT I'D LIKE IN A PARTNER

👻Understanding mental illness.

• Something I can't stress enough. I've been with people who don't get it, and while that's okay for them, I know that I need to be with someone who is soft, with the patience and capacity to deal with hardships that can occur with having it. Someone who gets that MDD/Anxiety or any mental illness is sporadic, it comes and goes, it isn't something that's cured easily. I have trauma and baggage that I've worked to get over for the past couple years, and while I've made a LOT of progress, I'm still avidly doing that.

👻No fetishists, no racists.

• I'm not wanting anyone that's going to look at me for my skin color instead of my entire self, personality and all.

👻No married folks.

• This isn't a shot to any of you who are married, but, I don't want and misunderstandings to happen, and I can be a little clingy/selfish, so preferably, I'd like someone who doesn't have a partner already. I've talked to people claiming they were poly but weren't, been groomed into a poly relationship, and have talked to people who didn't specify they were married.

👻Balanced Chaotic and Soft energy.

• I'd love someone who can read a room, know when to be serious and when to be absolutely ridiculous. Someone sharing my political ideologies, open-minded, and (can't stress this one enough) understands m e n t a l i l l n e s s. I'm not someone who can handle extremely high energy people, I've learned this about myself, but I also don't like low/no energy or effort. Something right in the middle is what I'd like.

👻Dominant with Caregiving approach, D/s Dynamic.

• Having someone help remind me to take meds, make sure go to bed on time, and kinda be that authority figure in my life are things I honestly love. It's endearing, it makes me feel cared for and loved. If you're someone who likes this kind of thing, and can look after someone outside of yourself, great! In only say this because I've been with people who weren't into it or couldn't. Do I have daddy issues, despite my father being in my life? Yeah, probably, ask my therapist lmao.

HOBBIES, KINKS, OTHER JUNK

👽MORE ABOUT ME

• shitty sketch artist - will draw u cursed memes
• PS5 primarily, warframe, moira main, overcooked 2, genshin (if I ever unlazy myself lol), and open to more
• gaming laptop that i spent BANK on just to play 1 game with: sims 4. i know ur judging me, u stop that rn
• love indie, alt, nu metal, edm, and much more
• infp personality type, if you like that kinda thing
• sometimes I say funny stuff, will send tiktoks, vine quotes, youtuber memes, crackhead shit

👽 If you're still here after my messy lil novel of disorganized stuff, thank you for reading this! And thanks for generally just checkin' my post out, and me. Shoot me a message if if you're interested, and I'll get back to you soon!