About me

I'm a 42 year dom with 12 years of experience. I have broad shoulders, with brown hair and flecks of grey. I live in the CST timezone. I read a lot, (fiction, non-fiction), watch sports (hockey, football, racing), and nerding out. I enjoy rules, punishments, training, and rituals. While I am nurturing, I have a sadistic streak - spankings are fun! I enjoy coming up with rules for you to conduct yourself by that are non-sexual in nature, as well as sexual. This could include how you dress, what time you go to bed, study time, cleaning, relaxation, or clothing. You will also be controlled sexually. When you break a rule, intentionally or not there will be a consequence. Every. Single. Time. This could be anything from a spanking to writing lines or corner time. I will to train you to be pleasing to me through your behaviour, conduct, and also sexually. I look forward to laughing lots with you, wiping your tears after a hard punishment, and enjoying the journey with you!

About You

While there always has to be a spark, I'm less looks focused and much more focused ont he journey we're going to embark on. You should possess an interest in this lifestyle and a willingness to try, a willingness to learn! You can be innately quiet and submissive, or are an outgoing powerful independent woman who wants to be dominated. Your age and relationship status do not matter to me. Your honesty and obedience do. I'm not concerned if this is new to you and we need to start gently exploring or if you've lived this lifestyle for years and know what you want. The joy is in the journey we'll embark on together.

Will / Won't

Communication in this dynamic is key, and I want to establish some things right from start. I will respect, but challenge you to your limits. It's important to me that you feel heard. I won't play without talks off limits. Communication is important, but I'm not going to text you on your schedule 47 times a day. We will discuss communication frequency as we get to know each other. I will humiliate and degrade you. I will support and encourage you. I will dominate you.

Next Steps

If this is something that speaks to you, I want you to be brave and send me a message. It doesn't matter if you're 24 and have been doing this for five years or 45 and it's something you've never explored. I know there can be a lot of nerves and anxiety about reaching out. What do you say? How do you start? Should you even message? What if he doesn't like me? What if I don't like him?

Stop the nervous self talk, take a deep breath, and be brave. Send me a message. Set a timer for 15 minutes and start a message to me. If you finish the message before the timer is up - wow you're fast! Take a second and think about if it's a good intro, and then send it. Low effort posts will be ignored.

If the timer goes off you will stop mid sentence / review, write "The timer went off, I'm pressing send", and send me the message.

In your message I want you to tell me:

- A little bit about yourself (age, physical description, interests). It can include the last thing you did, or the last meal you ate.

- Your experiences and interests with BDSM.

- Some kinks / limits you have (not all of them, we'll have plenty of time to get to know each other)

- Why you are interested in this kind of relationship / what you hope to get out of it.

I hope to hear from you soon!