In some ways you have probably met thousands of people like me. The guy at the edge of the party. A bit nerdy in a reads books about wizards or finance sort of way. Certainly can't dance. Or sing. Competitive but not overly athletic. You know the type.

Get to know me and a different person emerges. The type of person that everyone calls for relationship advice. Even keeled and perhaps the happiest person you will ever meet. Successful and driven.

But there is something lurking under the service. Fiercely sexual and unabashedly kinky. Experienced. Some have gone as far as to call me dark and twisted.

What I am looking for is a submissive that wants to be molded into their best self. A sane and sustainable power exchange.

I have a lot of experience on this front. My last sub got into the best shape of their life, got themselves out of debt, and achieved a number of more mundane goals that were important to her. Not to mention a number of sexual goals such as learning to deep throat or learning to cum from anal.

About Me

Anyway, probably should tell you more about me. I am a 40 year old poly dom (well technically a switch but I don't switch with somebody submissive to me) living in Williamsburg. I love food. Whether it is cooking a disparate array of cuisines (lot of Chinese, Mexican, Korean, and Creole food) to traveling to the far reaches of the world to find the good stuff. In my spare time I love to rock climb. I also love going to new breweries.

Who I am Looking For

I really am surprised at the disparate array of women I have fallen in love with. Artists and engineers. Fierce and timid souls. Extroverts and introverts. The one commonality I have found is they all have been the type I could listen to talk all day. Being passionate is a quick way to get my attention. Naturally, a desire to serve and submit in and out of the bedroom is ideal.

Poly Stuff

In terms of being poly, I'm the rock climbing poly type, not the board game poly, tech nerd poly, hippie free love poly, or dungeon and dragons poly type. I do have a nesting partner who prefers to not meet my other partners but will generally hear all about you. I also have two long distance partners that are important to me.

Kinks

Oh right! This is a BDSM personal ad. I find the emotional and mental side of a D/s relationship is what drives me. To wrench big feelings out of somebody. To be fully in control of somebody. To force somebody to submit to my will. But there are a litney of kinky things I enjoy on the physical side. From orgasm control, tease and denial, bondage, anal, spanking and impact play, humiliation play, group sex, the list goes on and on. I am always up for exploring and learning.

If any of this tickled your fancy, please reach out. Alternatively, I was serious about the recipe bit and will respond in kind with something easy, healthish, and summer inspired.